(Closed) What has your SO done towards wedding planning??? (…or what did he do ;) )

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

@HisBride515:  the Galapagos Islands are simply amazing.  The animals really do just come right up to you and have no fear.  Wildlife everywhere.  I fell asleep on the beach and my husband said I had about 30 birds on me just hanging out lol definitely put the Galapagos on your bucket list!  

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well Fiance doesn’t want to get into my “creative” choices too much lol. But he always has a voice in everything, and if he doesn’t like it, that’s out. He is very clear about what he likes and he’s not afraid to tell me about it. 

He’s also been my rock! I mean, I could spend hours hours and hoooours browsing dresses, honeymoon spots, decor ideas etc, and go insane. He keeps me real. He knows when to say “JUST STOP, you are going insane”. 

And he also does most of the driving around paying deposits and stuff hehe.

Oh and he is the most efficient guest list chopper ever… it is almost as if he doesn’t have a heart lol… (but he does x))

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

So far? Not much, but then again neither have I lol. He has picked and asked his best men (no groomsmen), discussed the guest list and colours with me, we have pretty much finalised that, gave his opinion on various things I have shown him – flowers, dresses, suits. Oh also gave ideas for table names (naming them after books!) and finding a ring he likes, and giving his opinion on the one I like. Then agreeing to the church, he didn’t really have much of a say in that haha, but he is happy to get married there, he knows how important it is to me.

I have told him that I expect him to be actively involved, that I want this to be our wedding not just my wedding! So DIY projects if any, picking flowers, picking mothers’ dresses, maybe bridesmaid dresses, honeymoon stuff, cake, food, venue. The only thing he won’t be there for is me finding my dress, although I have already sussed out his opinion on different elements (eg. a-line vs mermaid)

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

He has come to check out venues and given his opinion. He’s in the process of making our wedding website, STD’s, and invites

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

So far my Fiance has found our wedding planner for our desintation wedding and he researched and found a place for us to take dancing lessons and got us signed up.  Other than that…neither of us have done much really because we’re still 19 months out.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  

You are lucky that your fiance is very involved. Many brides would kill for that kind of involvement from their partners.

When we got married, my husband had no ideas at all. I did all the planning.

For our vow renewal, he is far more involved. He helped chose our venue, color scheme and some of the music. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

@FoxyBride14:  I don’t think it’s that he sees is as girly. He just told me (pointing at the computer screen pic of the tie I liked) “That is a really ugly color” Nice! Then I had to show him my mint green shoes and the mint green flower that’s going in my hair. See, this is why he never gives an opinion. It takes him DAYS to get his foot out of his mouth. heh.

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Russell\'s Pizza House

I’m pretty much putting options together, showing him and getting either thumbs up or thumbs down. But I really shouldn’t expect much more than this… It’s like this with eating out, looking for a house to buy etc. Ah bless him, love Fi to bits but I wish there was at least a few things he strongly wanted. At least he has stated what he didn’t want ie getting married in a church. I know I’m not going down a path he hates. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  that’s adorable! My Fiance was also surprisingly interested in the seating chart. I was going to make it on The Knot because I’d already uploaded our guest list and I liked that I could just drag and drop people. We haven’t sent out our invitations yet, but he was taking a shower the other day and when he came out I showed him how I’d set it up to look like our venue and I’d put our parents at their tables (because we’re sure they’re coming) and he got all upset and was like “why didn’t you wait for me? I want to help with the seating!” so I put everyone back and we’ll do it together later.

For other stuff, though, I usually narrow it down to 2-4 things I like and then show them to him. Like “Here are 4 cake toppers, which one is your favorite?”

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Lots! I have way more time to plan than he does, and I’m happy to look at pictures/ideas/Pinterest alllll day. So I end up narrowing down options to show him and then we decide together. Some things he will just let me decide (invitations, flowers, decor), and other things he definitely wanted input in (venue, photographers). He’s been really great about helping out with all kinds of decision making, even when he’s just plain exhausted and maxed out on wedding planning. 🙂

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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goingtotherooftopoflove:  mine is only concerned about the cake. He wants chocolate with lemon! :/  

He did go and sell his motorbike right before my dress appointment, so I could buy the dress I wanted 🙂 That was pretty sweet 🙂

But otherwise he just smiles and nods. He’s pretty easygoing.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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goingtotherooftopoflove:  thankfully my Fi has been really hands on… It’s not MY day its OUR day… We are going to be a team for the rest of our lives right? What better way to start off a marriage by planning your big day together? Fi designed the invites/STD’s and has really thrown some great ideas out.. July 19th 2014 seems so close, yet so far away… 38 DAYS!! <3

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Although I am planning about 95% of this wedding, he has definitely put his foot down for a few things and I have gladly accepted his requests. One was being that the ceremony was small, which does not make my mother happy – but, it’s OUR wedding, and not hers… so that is fine. Another thing he wanted was a band instead of a DJ, and that was a great idea. He was the one who worked with their agent and got them booked.

I do always ask for his opinion of any ideas I have or thoughts that pop into my head. Unless he’s really against something, he is usually laid back with whatever I want to do. I just want to keep it equal so that when this is over, I can look back and not feel like he wasn’t involved. I know some guys don’t care, but some guys do. He’s in between, as mentioned… caring a lot about some stuff, and others not so much.

Right now, we’re discussing first dance songs – and he just wants one that he actually knows and that’s a “shredder”. Good thing our wedding isn’t until October, as this may be our feud until then! I know we’ll find something that works though… it’s just fun bouncing ideas off of each other.

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