Post # 1
After a couple glasses of wine (haha) my Fiance and I came up with the idea to have the daughter of my friend (who also happens to be his second cousin), who will be 2 1/2, as a flower girl. After we had already asked her mother (who was delighted and said “yes”) we found out what a nightmare it could be. In addition, my Fiance now thinks it would be cute to have another cousin’s child, who is the same age, in the wedding too. I’ve tried to explain that I’m already stressed about having one toddler and that two might push me over the edge. Also, how do we not offend the other cousins with children who are not invited to participate? How can I get the point across that I simply don’t want a bunch of kids creating chaos before I’m supposed to walk down the aisle? He thinks it will be cute and funny. Help!
Post # 3
If she’s 2 1/2, there’s a good chance she won’t cooperate on the big day. Just let her go sit with her mom and don’t make a big deal of it.
As for other family members- don’t bring it up. If they ask about it, just say, “There was no way for us to choose amongst all the cousins’ kids, so that’s why we asked our friend.”
Post # 4
i think it should be fine. She just has to walk down the isle, then can go sit with her mom. My son will be 2 1/2 at our wedding and he is walking as one of my FIs GM! So excited!!! 🙂 we realize that he probably won’t stand up there the whole time, but we are sure he won’t have a problem walking down the isle. Then he can just go sit.
Post # 5
If you are worried about a bunch of kids though, tell your Fiance that you are fine with one, but don’t want to push it and it would stress you out WAY to much!
Post # 6
Tell him how you feel. It may seem cute to him but explain that it will stress you out. As for explaining…you don’t have to explain. They aren’t going to demand an explanation. Plus they can’t expect you to pick every toddler in the family.
Post # 7
Honestly, from a wedding guests point of view – this part of the wedding will go by so quickly, and a little humor thrown into the seriousness of marriage really breaks the ice on your big day. A little giggle at a toddler who runs down the aisle to her mommy while tossing her whole basket COULD end up de-stressing you! Good luck!
Post # 8
Honestly, people love a cute flower girl, even if they don’t cooperate – it’s easy to get away with because they’re little. My mom is always reminding me of the story at my uncle’s wedding when I was three and cried all the way down the aisle, or at my brother’s wedding, my then 2.5 yr old sister walked down the aisle with a nuk in her mouth! And you know what, in both instances, everyone thought it was funny and cute, the only people suffering embarrassment were the parents haha.
I think it will turn out to be fine – you can’t stress about every little detail of the wedding, and it’s probably not a good idea to…so some things you need to just let go, this might be one of them.
Good luck, I’m sure in the end it will all be beautiful.
Post # 9
I agree with RosyChicklet 100 percent.
There’s definitely a good chance the toddler won’t make it down the aisle, and if that happens, oh well. No one will care.
And use that response if the cousins ask why their kid wasn’t chosen. If you explain you were trying to be fair, people can’t complain about that!