(Closed) What have I gone and done?!?!

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Sugaree:  A rollercoaster of emotions might be amplified by you coming off of hormonal birth control, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have an “oh crap!” moment, because let’s be honest, babies change lives. It’s normal! But it might help to speak to a counselor to sort through the confusion if it becomes too much.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it is normal, this is a life changing decision you’ve just made.

I’ve been off the pill for about 6 weeks or so and I really second guessed this decision in the first 2-3 weeks. Now I’m more ok with not being on it and finally used to not taking it. There have been quite a few mornings where I think I forgot to take it and then remember there is nothing to take.

I found the first couple of weeks my emotions were terrible, but I figure that is my body getting used to being itself again. I now feel so much better being off of it.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Sugaree:  I am going through the EXACT same thing right now LOL! I went off last Friday (so about a week now) and I have been a huge ball of worries and insecurity since then. We aren’t even actively TTC-ing right now, I’m just going off to regulate my periods before we start in September, but holy cow, I’m freaking out! It feels so REAL now, you know!? 

I think part of it is that your hormones have to get all back in line with being off b/c..I know that for the first time in a couple years, I had a panic attack…found myself being extremely emotional and depressed…and I’m starting to feel better today. For me at least, there was definitely an adjustment period for my emotions. You might go through the same thing, athough I hope you don’t! No fun! 

Anyways, long post, but just wanted to say I’m totally feeling the same way. I want a baby so badly, but now that I can actually get pregnant, yes, I’m scared. Still want to try in September, but definitely needed some hugs and reassurances from my hubs that we aren’t completely bonkers. GOOD LUCK girl!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Sugaree:  After going off the pill for four months now, best thing I ever did! Don’t freak out– just go back to the early days before the pill where you used a condom until you are calm and ready to TTC 🙂

 

PS. I cried, laughed, was depressed and fell into a rage in a 10 minute time span about 4 days after I was off them. Your hormones will be INSANE for a few days.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@dramabean, we seem to be in exactly the same place and most of your post takes the words right out of my mouth. Cheers to September Smile

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I stopped taking the pill in April and I was pretty ok with it, because we agreed to use condoms for a while. My only concerns with getting off the pill were my acne coming back (a legit fear but it’s still not as bad as in my teens) and cramps from hell. So far so good there. 

We did just recently have sex with NO contraception at all for the first time ever and I had a moment of “WTF am I doing?” but I’m charting and I know I already ovulated so it was fine. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m nervous about taking that step too.  It’s kind of exhilerating and TERRIFYING, all at the same time!!!  I console myself with the fact that it usually takes several months to get pregnant, so I will probably have lots of time to get used to the idea.  Still, after years… decades… of always being careful, it’s crazy to suddenly not have any protection at all. I’m kind of excited about it though.  Good luck!  Have fun tonight:-)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Niqs:  lol! It’s nice knowing you aren’t the only crazy one!! 🙂 Hooray September!!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Haha yes I think that’s normal! 🙂 I wanted babies all my life but still had a few wobbly moments when we ACTUALLY dropped the protection for real. It’s a huge step! Plus your hormones might be all over the place as others have said. x

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I remember being nervous the first time we had sex without any protection intentionally. It was scary and nervous. Once a month went by without getting pregnant, I got more comfortable with it. I love being off birth control. My hormones regulated and things felt so different off of birth control. For the first time in ten years, things just felt mellowed out and awesome. Pregnancy hormones are fun too.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Lol, I just got off the pill also and am constantly like “is this the right decision? will I be a good mom? can we afford this? are we sure we want to do this for life? what’s it going to be like to never go to the grocery kid-less again??” etc. lol. But, at the same time, I know I really want children, that my husband and I have a solid marriage, solid financial position, great plan for childcare, etc. I think it’s good that we all have these thoughts, it means we’re taking this life-changing decision seriously and not just blindly thinking it’s going to be a walk in the park and all sunshine and rainbows.

I keep telling myself, everything has pros and cons and that no time will ever be the “perfect time”.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s kind of a crazy feeling after trying to PREVENT pregnancy all your teenage years!

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