Post # 1
Hi all! I was just curious to see what people have been most surprised about during wedding planning/engagement? My mom and I would talk about wedding stuff all the time before I became engaged. I was most surprised that when I actually became engaged, she really wasn’t/hasn’t been that interested in wedding planning. Also she really could care less about what dress I choose (I thought she’d be crying over “her little girl all grown up.”
Also surprised about how our wedding budget seems to barely cover the essentials and I can’t believe how EVERYONE seems to have an opinion on EVERYTHING!
What are you surpised to discover?
Post # 3
I was surprised how adamant my Fiance was about some planning details. (Had to be a night wedding, I have to walk down the aisle to Here Comes the Bride). Also, how happy he is that we’re having a keg of Guiness.
Post # 4
I was surprised at how much work it is! I mean, even just picking the venue took us a solid month of negotiating and site visits. i guess the good thing is that it makes me even more excited for the actual wedding since I won’t have to plan anymore!
Post # 5
How strongly other people feel about YOUR wedding! That’s crazy to me – what does it matter to a great aunt if we get married in a church or not?!
Post # 6
I second Lilyfaith. I was shocked how many people wanted to stick their hands in the pot. I was also shocked how predatory the single girls at work acted about it. They all want to be so involved, like theyre living vicariously through me. I’m not generalizing all single women, just the ones at my job.
Post # 7
How expensive everything is! It’s just crazy!!
Post # 8
I’m with lilyfaith! What is it about wearing an engagement ring that makes everyone think they can tell you what to do. The other day I was filling out one of those rewards cards as a store, and the clerk tried to tell me what I should do about changing my name or not. Like, not asking what I was doing, or sharing their personal experience, but telling me that I needed to change/not change. Sorry, but that’s a personal decision, and I’m not going to make it based on the opinions of random strangers!
Post # 9
I was surprised about how EVERYTHING must be spelled out in contracts. How you assume with a buffet, napkins would be included! Things like that…
Post # 10
1) How expensive it is–especially table linen rentals!
2) That my Fiance was adamant about having flower garlands for our ceremony venue. No joke. When we talked to our florist-flower farmer, she mentioned them as a possibility, and now it’s the one detail he care about most! Who knew?!
Post # 11
I was really shocked about how much there is to do. I was completely baffled at how women do this all the time. It takes SO MUCH time and hard work! How come no one told me? LOL
Post # 12
I’m so with you cupcake! It does take a long time to plan it and its over so quickly! I love wedding and I love to plan things, but i’m basically the only one planning my wedding so the amount of things to do is ginormous!
I have also been surprised about the reaction of some of my friends. The ones who “pretend” to be happy for you but I think are really jealous. All of a sudden then dont have time to hang out anymore.
I’m so happy to have found this community of awesome women! Its so great to jump on here and have other people to discuss wedding things with who actually WANT to talk weddings! You ladies are the best!
Post # 13
omg…def how much everyone else cares about your wedding. everyone thinks it is so awful that we are asking half our guests to turn their chairs to face us for the ceremony. we are having our ceremony and reception at the same venue. WHO CARES! it is simply turning your chair around. FREAKING IDIOTS!!!!!!!!!!!! would you rather me have you drive across the city to another location than turn your chair? seriously?!
also how immature my sister (MOH) and friends can be. also made me realize that maybe i dont like to be the center of attention (i always thought that is what i liked :D)
Post # 14
I know a few people above say that they’re surprised by how much there is to do, but I am actually the complete opposite. I’m not doing a ton of DIY and I’m admittedly a little lazy when it comes to this wedding planning business, but I am surprised y how little to do. Based on the board, blogs and other people’s input, I feel like I should be doing something wedding-related at all times. Not so much. I’m doing far less work than I expected. and THANK GOODNES FOR THAT!
Post # 15
That my fiance ended picking the wedding colors!
Post # 16
How bad people can be about RSVP-ing. Our due date is tomorrow and we are still missing 53 cards. As of last Friday, we were missing over half.