- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I thought I knew my husband pretty well. We were long distance for the majority of our relationship, and because he works for himself he was able to come up for a week or two at a time to spend at my place. I also occasionally went to his house a couple times a year, all within a 2 and half year period.
So I thought I had a really good idea about living together. But I really freaking didn’t, I don’t know if he restrained himself, because we spent most of our time at my place. But seriously when he is home he basically walks behind me cleaning.
For example. I go for a run in the morning, when I get back, I take my shoes off at the front door, peel my clothes in our room, and jump in the shower. I have every intention of picking it up when I get out, he normally is dozing because it’s about an hour before he needs to get up, yet he will get out of bed go downstairs get my shoes, pick up all my clothes.
I have face stuff I use every morning, we have a large double sinks , I don’t think it’s a big deal to leave my things I use every day on top of the counter organized neatly. But he insist on putting it in boxes we bought in our linen closet. I just let him win on that one. We also have a little make up vanity, which I can’t leave my makeup/ brushes neatly organized on. Even our toothbrushes, soap/toothpaste can’t stay on the counter they have to go into the closet as well.
If we eat dinner and I put the dishes to soak, so we can finish enjoying a glass of wine or whatever, and not for long either I plan on washing the dishes, he literally cannot restrain himself from immediately cleaning up the dishes. Often when I’m drinking or eating something and put it down for a minute to go pick up the phone or get something, when I come back he assumed that I’m just letting food out, and throws it out, he done it multiple times.
If I go shopping and come back and put the bags down, he immediately has to go into the bags take everything off, snip the tags, put it away, and put the bags away. I seen him do some of these things before, but after living together for several months it seems rather excessive to me and I become irrationally upset about it, and it seems like a stupid thing to get in a fight over. So I’m really trying to bite my tongue.
I knew he was a bit of the clean freak, so I tried to step up my game, but it majorly annoys me how anal he is about things. This is something we spoke about in pre wedding counseling. So I have stepped up so I don’t leave my clothes and things laying around, and to have the house clean spic and span, but I feel like he overboard.
Anyways the bee is good for venting just need to get that off my chest. What have you learned about your spouse since moving in/ getting married that is driving you bonkers?