(Closed) What have you learned about yourself through wedding planning?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That I’m not as nice as I thought I was haha! No seriously, I learned that I don’t really want the opinions of my in laws or family to affect what me and Fiance want on our special day. Though we love our families,  it’s our day.

Post # 3
10404 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Well I learned not to take myself so seriously . Very little was/is worth stressing and getting anxious about .

Post # 4
167 posts
Blushing bee

I’m super organized and love planning things. That said, the biggest thing I learned is that I hate wedding planning! We cancelled our wedding, and are getting married with only parents and siblings this weekend.

I also learned I’m apparently a HUGE stress eater, Ive been eating chocolate and sugar cookies for the past 3 days… #firstworld problems 😂😂😂😂

Post # 5
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

To not take the lack of contact from my family and close friends personally. Nobody cared about my wedding as much as me and they had their own lives with crap going on. On the day-of, it was all about us but the days leading up to it, not so much. I feel much more patient and understanding with people and their laggy response times now. 

Post # 6
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn

That I really CAN BE organized and not a procrastinator! That I can ask for help and be OK with it. And that I can budget when I really put my mind to it. And that it really is OK to splurge on something if it makes you happy. I spent $75 on a cake topper and I’m so darn excited about it!

Post # 7
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m indecisive!! Seriously I think my mom picked out mostly everything. And if I absolutely had to make the decision, I asked her to narrow it down to two things for me to pick from and I’d decide from those two things. 

Post # 8
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m definitely indecisive. And I can’t stand procrastinating. Getting sh*t done is the BEST feeling!

Post # 9
698 posts
Busy bee

I learned that I’m a lot crazier than I thought, and that even though I love planning and am good at it, I should have hired a coordinator!

Post # 10
3297 posts
Sugar bee

I already knew I was freakishly organised.

I knew I was particular, but not THIS particular – I drive myself nuts

I’m really not as traditional as I thought

Post # 11
2454 posts
Buzzing bee

I learned that I honestly don’t care about weddings. I thought I was going to be crazy controlling and totally into the planning but I’m not, I would have been totally okay with a courthouse wedding. 

I also had no idea all the small little stuff that went into planning a wedding…. I really don’t have a clue about some things. But, I also learned that my fiance has evrn less of a clue then I do! Lol 

And I learned that I miss my dad alot. He died when I was 6 so I knew that he was never going to be around for my wedding but now that it is actually becoming a reality, I am really struggling with it and I had no idea this was going to affect me so much. 

Post # 12
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m more organized than I thought I was.  I’m generally a laid back person who hates to-do lists.

Post # 13
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Honestly, I think I learned that I don’t care about having one.


Everytime I start to get worried about something (ie. will anyone show up? Will the DJ play the right songs? Will my HMUA be able to recreate the looks I’m interested in?) I start to think of the worst case scenario and I just don’t care. It isn’t worth the stress to me because at the end of the day it’s all just a big party. The worst (wedding related) thing that could happen is that the paperwork isn’t filled out correctly. Meh, we’ll just redo it.

Post # 14
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m more organised than I ever thought I was. I love spreadsheets. I can be very focused when I want to be. I’m maybe a tad over eager!

Post # 15
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

That I still need to ask people’s opinions before I can finalise things. It’s super annoying but I’ve always needed someone to just be like ‘yeah, I’d go with that one too’ to reassure me and it turns out, I haven’t grown out of it!

Learnt that I actually don’t care as much as I thought I did about having the perfect day. At the beginning, I was adamant everything would go right but as it’s getting closer and people are flaking, were having to go for cheaper options in things etc I actually don’t mind. So long as we both turn up and get married, who cares about the rest. I can’t fix what’s out of my control and sometimes you just have to laugh.

On the reverse of this, I have also found out I will have sleepless nights over ridiculous things such as the thought that I might have accidentally given one of our vendors the wrong date or what if my reception venue has a fire the week of our wedding. I need to calm down for real…

I have found out that I’m actually quite impatient. I have always been told how good I am at waiting things out but I’m really not. I like things to get done when they need doing and that’s become apparent during planning!

I’ve always been super organised so no revelation there but I’ve realised how much I actually enjoy it. I love filing things in my ‘done folder’ and making lists of what needs doing. It’s so satisfying and I’m genuinely a bit deflated at the thought of not doing it anymore once the wedding is done. I need my folders and checklists.

I’ve learnt that I’m crap at sticking to a budget. Need to work on this one for the future!


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