(Closed) What have you learned about yourself through wedding planning?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hate everyone. 

Post # 17
471 posts
Helper bee

That I shut down when too many people (or one person) try to ask me too much about it. Like, let me do what I’m doing. Can’t do more.

I’m super organized, but that’s no problem. However, I have realized that my work ethic in responding to emails is SO much better than I thought it was. I’m always afraid I’ll miss an email or that I’m taking too long to respond, but seriously – these vendors are ALL taking their sweet time getting back to me.

I have also learned that it is really difficult for me to spend money. Even though I have all the wedding funds set aside in a separate account, I’m a pennypincher, sometimes to my detriment. I’ve been working on that and will continue to.

Post # 18
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I learned to be patient in the interest of my Fiance and I being a “team”.  While I would see things that I knew I wanted immediately, I have been restraining myself so that Fiance and I can discuss purchases together, big and small.  Not only for finance reasons, but to make sure we both like the decor, etc.  We also have worked together quite a bit on how to approach family, etc.

I also learned that in the land of wedding planning, STD = save the date and Bridesmaid or Best Man = bridesmaid.  Outside, they are sexualy transmitted diseases and bowel movements, hahaah – that took a lot of getting used to!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  Kannon.
Post # 19
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I have learned:
– that I hate conflict and try to avoid it rather than face it. This is something I have to work on!
– that Fiance and I are strong together in the face of interference.
– that some people really truly consider your wedding to be theirs to command. 
– that as long as my Future Mother-In-Law walks the earth, we will have to do battle on every single little issue for the right to plan our wedding/live our lives/raise our hypothetical children as we see fit. 
– that every option is expensive, there is no cheap option!


Post # 20
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I learned that I need to work better with my Darling Husband and truly consider his feelings and opinions. (Wedding planning brought out the worst in both of us, ugh)

I learned that I need to be more patient with everything. I’m quite a perfectionist and wants to get everything done asap!

I learned that I couldn’t handle stress very well, which I thought I could, considering back in the school days lol.

I learned that the grass is always greener on the other side, so stop comparing yourself to others and just be satisfied with what you have. (There were numerous occasions where I thought, “hmm maybe I should get an extra bouquet because so-and-so has one,” or, “I should choose so-and-so’s photographer. Those photos look better”, etc.).

Oh and one last thing, not something I “learned”, but rather, something I should have done instead during wedding planning: stop going on Facebook and stalking other people’s weddings! Their weddings are always going to be better, more elegant, more beautiful, more this, more that. 

Post # 21
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well I did an excellent job planning, my husband was so proud – still is.  And I learned that there are just some people that did not deserve me to be so damn nice, but the majority of people actually really appreciated that I tried to be nice about everything.  I didn’t see the point in being a bitch about things.

I already knew that is was just a day and that no one else would be as into as me, I didn’t need to “learn” that.  But even knowing that all the way through I am still appalled at how some people acted.

Post # 22
3243 posts
Sugar bee

That I hate making decisions I ultimately don’t care about. I do not care what color fabric someone wipes their face and hands with, nor do I care how said fabric is folded. “Cloudwhite, Starlight, Powder…” How about white? Like, just white, you know.. white… 


I feel like I’ll also be forced to make decisions on toilet paper color. Honestly, I do not care, just make it not look like Chucke E. Cheese.

Overall, wedding planning just reinforced that the small details, while pretty, don’t matter in the long run. Will someone know the difference between Cloudwhite or Starlight? No, they certainly won’t. Will someone notice the final product and the atmosphere created? Most certainly. 


Post # 23
90 posts
Worker bee

I learned that I’m way more laid back than i expected – so far, at least. I’m one of those people who’s been planning her wedding since she was a kid, so I thought I would go nuts with planning. But I’m actually pretty relaxed… maybe too relaxed. I need to get moving on some of the DIY stuff or it isn’t going to happen.

I also learned that I feel really uncomfortable being the center of attention. I am so excited for my bridal shower that’s coming up, but it also feels super akward somehow. I feel weird asking my bridal party to do stuff, even though I’ve tried really hard to make things easy and not be demanding. (They can choose their own little black dresses to wear, for example.) When I’ve been a bridesmaid, I’ve been totally excited to participate and help the bride out, but it’s surprisingly hard to be on the other end and be accepting all of these “favors” from other people. Am I weird? Anyone else feel this way?

Post # 24
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

weatherbug:  ROFLMAO I thought I was the only one!!!


Seriously LOVE planning weddings for others HATE doing my own!!! Seriously considering eloping!

Post # 25
3442 posts
Sugar bee

That I have very little interest in planning parties.

Post # 26
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m organized. I’m more decisive Than I realized. I make life and death decisions at work and that makes these decisions easier. I am very numbers driven and enjoy working within my budget. I’ve been way more laid back about this than I expected so I fully anticipate that I’ll be Bridezilla at some point.

Post # 27
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That I don’t sweat the mistakes (big or little) -wrong date on the save the cards, well atleast they weren’t expsensive. Wrong color envelopes for the RSVP card, well this shade actually looks better!

relationship wise- Fiance cannot make decisions on things he doesn’t care about it, and it’ll just stress him out to have come up with an opinion. He wanted rounded corners on the invites and RSVP cards so I’m more than happy to leave the paper punching to him!

Post # 28
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

1. Making big decisions stresses the hell out of me.

2. I violently dislike wasting money on crap I’ll only use once.

3. I really like designing events, i.e., researching ideas, coming up with color schemes, themes, florals, etc.

4. I am ruthless with guest lists. Sorry Aunt Diane; see ya at Christmas.

5. I wouldn’t have minded eloping at all. (we can still do it, FI!)

Post # 29
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

weatherbug:  LOL, I love it. My thoughts exactly.

Post # 30
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

That I am more traditional than I originally thought! Oh and that I know surprisngly little about proper etiquette, thank goodness for my mom being around or else my invites would probably say “come to our wedding thanks!” LOL

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