What have you learned from this website?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 91
Member
610 posts
Busy bee

That some people on here are really freaking wealthy compared to anyone I know. 

Post # 92
Member
610 posts
Busy bee

Oh also that so mamy people are in extremely unhealthy and possibly dangerous relationships and dont realize it at all. I lived it myself with an ex thats a sociopath and its so hard reading about others suffering emotional abuse yet making excuses for it. Like I used to. Really sad. 

Post # 93
Member
610 posts
Busy bee

One more – that people are so obsessed with having even bridal parties. Chances are you and your Fiance dont have an equal number of bffs/family. 

Post # 94
Member
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

The main thing I didn’t know before coming on this board was quite how big the difference in attitudes to all things wedding-related between the US and UK are – its been a real eye-opener and made me very glad I’ve never been involved in an American wedding!

The biggest learning point (and something that makes me by turns sad and angry) is how many women are “waiting” for boyfriends to decide to get their asses into gear and hanging on to the need for “the proposal” to be some big special surprise… I’ve never come across anything like it in the UK, and I’m sorry biut I actually think its ridiculous!  If a grown woman can’t have an open and honest conversation with her partner about if/when they might get married, and two grown adults can’t decide together if and when they want to get married, then perhaps they shouldn’t be getting married….?

Post # 95
Member
1600 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t realize how many people had such shitty friends. 

Post # 96
Member
150 posts
Blushing bee

That when someone makes a post saying “Let me see your 3 carat cushion cut moissanites” other people will be like “here is my .50 carat moonstone for comparason” 

Just something i’ve noticed cool

Post # 97
Member
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

-There are so many lovely and caring people on the Bee willing to help others.

-So many ladies are obsessed with rings and ring size. They even like to just look at photos of other people’s rings. I don’t get it personally.

-Going on this board one would believe that “finger coverage” is a thing in real life. 

-Bachlorette parties have mutated into luxury vacations for the bride paid for by the bridal party. Some brides can’t fathom why a Bridesmaid or Best Man would need or choose to opt out of this!

-The TTC/miscarriage support boards are full of empathetic, supportive people.

Post # 98
Member
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

The biggest differences I’ve observed between US & UK…

– Here (UK) it is the norm for bridesmaids dresses, best man’s outfit etc to be provided – it shouldn’t cost people any more to be part of the Wedding Party than it would to just turn up as a guest.

– We don’t have nearly so many pre-wedding events.  Hen & stag parties, then its just one day!

– It’s apparently much more acceptable in the US  to keep “upgrading” the rings and not stick with the ones you actually get married/engaged with

– We’re not half so obsessed with “etiquette” in the UK.  Which is odd when you consider the National histories and stereotypes!

 

And the biggest similarity? Waaay too many brides on both sides of the pond expect far too much of other people.  Newflash – your wedding is not the centre of anyone else’s universe!

Post # 99
Member
1530 posts
Bumble bee

People are really into rings. I went to to avoiding thesis wormhole and found threads about back up rings if you can’t wear your normal one, how people wouldn’t marry a type of guy who doesn’t wear wedding rings, how engagement get a postponed because there is no money for the rings etc.

Also what baffles me is how much money people need to save before engagement and marriage. I’m not sure of the sentiment why it has to be done before and not be down during the marriage. I’m not talking about saving for the ring or wedding.

I’ve noticed that people also love to jump into conclusions and read way too much into a message. Posters try to post their problem as shortly as possible and only one aspect in their lives. There is a big risk of being misunderstood. Especially when people tend to post while they are emotional and the tone changes easily once people have calmed down. People love to make assumptions and clearly some posters have never overreacted, had a selfish thought and have always been perfect adults that can communicate maturely. There has been quite a few threads this weekend where I felt bad for the OP cause the thread took a life of its own when I felt they were pringing up a small thing and asking for opinions.

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