(Closed) What have you overcome?

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Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

…I prefer the phrase, “What doesn’t kill you weakens your immune system so something else can.”

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@mypinkshoes:  Thank you, that means alot. I never knew you had a son, that’s really strong of you and very admirable. I respect you more for that 🙂

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@Rouquine:  Yeah, it will be 10 years in September that she passed away and she would have been 12 on July 22nd. It’s a tough subject to talk about and I don’t always share about it.

I wanted to put it out on here in case other people have lost a child as well and maybe I could find confort with them.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

  • I was raped as a young girl, which resulted in PTSD I am (still) not fully over
  • Abuse by the same man that raped me
  • An abusive boyfriend in HS; (this re-triggered the PTSD)
  • Anxiety/depression.
  • Endometriosis
  • Having to come to terms with the high possibility of never having children
  • Having 2 miscarriages.
  • Watching my parents fight constantly about money, for 20 years, and becoming extremely worried about my own financial future.

I know I don’t have it as bad as others, but sometimes I wish I could’ve had a little…less…happen?

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just want to thank you ladies for sharing your stories. I’m going through some crap right now and feel like if you all can survive what you have, there’s hope for me too.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

 

  • growing up poor–my parents eventually claimed bankruptcy

 

  • abusive relationship

 

  • my mother being psychologically, financially and emotionally abusive

 

  • financial issues (not good with money, my parents weren’t exactly positive role models but I am working on it….I haven’t used my credit cards in over a year….working on paying them off)

 

  • sexual assault

 

  • friends (and my sister) using me for money (apparently I appear rich)

 

  • my depression and anxiety

 

  • working a LOT

 

  • owing a TONNE of taxes this year (my own fault, and I’m sooooo happy that Fiance and I had the money to pay it off…..although the wedding fund was quite depleted)

 

  • my father having cancer 1.5 years ago…he is cancer free still….it was tough because I stayed with my mom to help her out (she is disabled) –note the abusive issues above
  • being in 2 car accidents that resulted in whiplash and now I have back problems…I was on a  narcotic and chose to go off it….withdrawals were awful

I am not sorry for any of this happening because I am quite happy with where I am in life….

My favourite song is “Whatever doesn’t kill me” by finger eleven

“What ever doesn’t kill me, doesn’t make me stronger, but i’m not gonna give up yet!”

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I don’t know if it has made me stronger, but this is what I’ve gone through:

~My father is emotionally and verbally abusive, so that has left me a mess (I never feel safe, feel like everyone is judging me, feel like I need to be perfect, etc.).  I’m not out of this situation yet, but I will be soon.   

~Untreated OCD and other issues (panic attacks/anxiety, bouts of depression, and probably PTSD).  I haven’t been able to see a doctor to figure out what exactly is wrong with me and treat the problems…there’s no way I’d be able to see a therapist without my father knowing, and he says terrible things about people who have mental issues so it’s not worth the risk to me right now.  I’ll get this sorted out once I’m in a safer place.  I’m just biding my time until I can make the cleanest, safest exit from the situation.  

~I don’t have the right amount of lymph nodes and my lymphatic system never developed properly, causing intense pain and swelling throughout my limbs.

~I’ve considered suicide on and off throughout my life.  The worst was a 4-month bout of near-daily suicidal thoughts.

~I’ve had a few pets with health issues.  I hate seeing my babies hurting.    

Post # 23
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

A couple things –

  • An abusive relationship in HS
  • Losing my mom before senior year
  • Have had surgeries every few years since the beginning of high school
  • Having a chronic pain condition that was hard to diagnose and no cure
  • Possibility that I might never have children

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@couawilou:  thanks.  he has always been my rock.  i wouldn’t be what i am today without him by my side.  it was obviously not planned but things work out for a reason.  i ended up having medical issues and had to have a hysterectomy so i am so grateful for him every day.  check out my pics from the wedding and you will see him.

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@couawilou:  (hugs) Much love to you.

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@mypinkshoes:  I did before 😀

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@Rouquine:  Thanks dear.

I wanna thanks OP for starting up this thread. It takes alot to share stuff like this and to put it on here for all of you ladies is a stronger move. I do appreciate all of you sharing what you have had and are still overcoming. Thank you for sharing a personal piece of you

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

The sudden death of my father when I was eight years old, and the death of my grandfather about two weeks later. I lost the two most important men in my life within two weeks.

My mother’s death from cancer 20 years ago this summer — easily most heartbreaking and scary experience of my life. Mom was my best friend and soul mate — losing her was like losing part of myself.

The loss of my two precious silky terriers from old age. I got them a few weeks after Mom died, and they brought love and laughter back into my life for nearly 16 years. I miss my girls terribly.

My first sexual experience was a date rape, when I was in my freshman year of college. It was devastating and in many ways, the fallout from that experience ruined the years that followed. I was so ashamed and scared that I wasn’t able to tell anyone until two  years after it happened.

In spite of those experiences, I still feel incredibly blessed in life. I have had many advantages and a great deal of good fortune. But because of the hardships I’ve dealt with, I think of a Rogers & Hammerstein song from “The Sound of Music” called “(I Must Have Done) Something Good.” That song pretty much sums up how I feel about things since DH came into my life.

“Perhaps I had a wicked childhood,

Perhaps I had a miserable youth.

But somewhere in my wicked, miserable past

There must have been a moment of truth.

For here you are, standing there, loving me

Whether or not you should.

So somewhere in my youth or childhood,

I must have done something good.

Nothing ever comes from nothing,

Nothing ever could.

So somewhere in my youth or childhood,

I must have done something good.”

 

 

 

 

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Andr0meda:  Love that, it’s a beautiful song.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee

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@couawilou:  

 

I haven’t seen that movie in a long time, but every time it comes to that part where they do that song, it just gets me!

: )

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow reading all this makes me realise I don’t have it so bad (not that I even thought I did). One major thing I have overcome that’s believe has made me as strong as I am is a 5 yr bout of depression due to a horrible job experience and me getting to see the world for how terrible it is (long story short I am a teacher – I saw a lot in my first 3 yrs out that I never ever thought was out there, my rose coloured glasses were well and truly removed. For privacy reasons I cant share many details but I was dealing with abuse – physical, sexual and neglect (only physical towards me – from students and parents), suicides, dealing with mental, emotional issues of children – it was very draining as you can imagine) ETA: I should also mention I was isolated from family and friends as I had to travel leave the city to work. So I had no support network for the first time in my life.

I say five years even thou I still have some issues with depression now but my worse years ranged over 5. It took me a long time to trust again, not be bitter about everything I’d seen and even longer to not imagine the worse in everyone. My Fiance is the only person I let thru my bubble which is why my past relationships failed (that and they fact they weren’t right for me)

Most recently dealing with the diagnosis and death of my father, diagnosed Feb 2011 and died Sept 2011. Very hard year and I have still not “overcome” the feelings of sadness – not sure that is compounded by the fact I am getting married in less than 3 weeks and he won’t be there. He was very involved with our planning thou and I know he will be there in spirit.

Post # 31
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

– Growing up poor, because my mother had no idea how to be a responsible person (much less a parent)–money problems, would rather buy pot than pay the mortgage, etc.

– Bullying in middle school/part of high school

– Not having my dad around

– My mother always being “too busy” (read: inconsiderate, selfish) to support me–she stopped coming to performances, stopped calling (unless she needs money), mostly stopped coming to family things, didn’t bother to acknowledge the fact that I was graduating college or show up to the ceremony, didn’t congratulate me or say anything about our engagement.

– Got myself into a small load of debt by age 20.

– Spent 3 years in an emotionally abusive and threatening relationship.

– Lots 95% of my friends over the years, usually because of drama they started. 

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