(Closed) What have you spent on a bridal shower?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Could your favorite dessert spot do a deal for you? Like give a steep discount since you’ll have a larger group? It never hurts to ask about catering and event space. Nearly everything is negotiable.

Post # 5
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Newbee

I have definitely spent over $100 to help host a shower. I don’t think $80 is unreasonable. I have to say though- I was slightly annoyed with that one shower because I (and the other bridesmaids) were basically told to pay the girl’s mom and aunt for the cost of the shower. We bridemaids would have been fine throwing the shower, but we would have done it TOTALLY differently. This just ended up being her aunt planning and throwing the shower, and us having to pay her (like we were getting a bill). And… this might sound strange, but we got no "credit" for throwing the shower. Everyone thanked the aunt, but we got no thank you. So I was left feeling a bit used. 

Post # 6
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

We planned a shower and all the maids chipped in, but it was really expensive – about $200 each.  Then again, everyone said it was the best shower they’d ever been to.  How come they are asking you where you want it?  They should be making the decisions, no?at least that way you can’t offend them or something asking for something they can’t afford.  anyway, they should spend what they can.  Not all showers are at someone’s house.  or maybe your dessert place can cater or something to someone’s house cheaper?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I paid $300 for the last wedding I was in!  I was not happy about it, but I have been a bridesmaid about ten times and the average has been in the $150-$200 range.  $80 is definitely not too much to ask!!

Post # 9
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I know my MoH spent approx $1000 on my shower and wedding related expenses and the other BMs chipped in $200 or so.  I didn’t ask them to spend that much but they did.  I gave her ideas and even offered up free spaces that I had access to. I protested the amount they were spending (I didn’t want them to spend that much on me) and my MoH told me, "the expense is MY choice."    So I think $80 is reasonable.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

thanks for asking this question….i’m no where near my shower yet but i woudl like to do something different. thinking a beach slumber party, so its good to know what others consider expensive or not.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

it totally depends on your friends, i guess. mine are all graduate students, so to us $80 is a quite a chunk of change. for others, that’s nothing at all. just go with your gut – you know your pals better than we do. i don’t think that’s unreasonable, though, even on my paltry salary. 😉 as a previous poster said, though, it makes a big difference if the bridesmaids organize it or if somebody else does, then expects the bridesmaids to pay up. that can lead to some negative feelings.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

One bridesmaid and I (I was MOH) hosted my friend’s shower and we spent quite a bit… hundreds, I’m sure (but I honestly didn’t keep track of the exact total in the end).  It was a little more than what I could really afford to be quite honest, but it was very memorable for her and I know she had fun. Depending on your friends, I don’t think that $80 is too much.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I really think $80 is a great price! It also depends on how many poeple you have. one shower i helped plan had 40 people. at $15 a person for a lunch, and thats already 600 – include cake, decorations, invitiations etc, and we were in the 800-1000 range. Divide by 3 and that was about 250 a person.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

i think $80 is doable. i’ve been a bm twice, for the first shower we collectively did a potluck so each guest brought something so that brought it down. since i was interning and thus broke, i just handled the favors, which i made my fudge that the bride to be loves.

for the second one, i didn’t keep track but we held it at her mom’s house and we made the food [or my mom did for some of it] so most of the cost was on decorations and favors, which wasn’t that much either. but it was for my best friend so i wanted to throw her the best party i could so it didn’t matter to me.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I held a tea which came to around 250 per bridesmaid (3 of us hosted). Add invites,  save the dates (the bride and bridesmaids are scattered) and a gift and I spent well over 500 myself.

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