(Closed) What helped improve your sex life?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I completely agree with you. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

A better boyfriend (now my FI).Lol!

And excercise too but in a diff way. When Fiance is going to the gym more, he lasts longer and is more ahem…cirque de soliel…lol

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree on working out. That helps a lot. Fiance has been working out quite a bit these last few months and he is looking goooooood. So not just me working out – him too!

Also, not spending a ton of time together. If we spend a lot of time together he just annoys me and I can’t stand him.
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Dinner dates where we both drink are very rare so when we get to do that (VERY against drunk driving so we either get a hotel room or get a cab)

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree on working out. That helps a lot. Fiance has been working out quite a bit these last few months and he is looking goooooood. So not just me working out – him too!

Also, not spending a ton of time together. If we spend a lot of time together he just annoys me and I can’t stand him.
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Dinner dates where we both drink are very rare so when we get to do that (VERY against drunk driving so we either get a hotel room or get a cab)

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Moving out of our parents house!!!!!!   !

Have any of you watched the tv show 7 days of sex? Basically, each couple must eliminate obsticals, distractions, and objections and have sex at least once a day for one week. One night the man is responsible for doing  something special and one night the woman must do something special. At the beginning they’re all grouchy about it and by the end theyre all mushy and gaga over each other.

I tried to get Fiance to do the 7 days of sex challenge with me and he refused… waaaah! No idea if it works like the tv show.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

if you want a an MBA you read for it and when you love something you find out as much as you can about it. same with the sex life, read as much as you can and find out and learn about how sex works, i know it sounds technical but when you know how your body works you know how to get it going! talk about stuff, have a review! sit down with Darling Husband and have the sex talk, like what does he like and tell him what you like. dont put too much pressure on each other. be adventurous, if you guys dont like something ditch it. 

A magic portion is passion, the biggest sex tool on your body is your brain. in the morning start building up the passion, let him know how its going to go down and that he better hurry home, 1 you will feel like you can do just about anything and he will feel like a king with the queen waititng for him at home…

 hope these few tips help

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Making a conscious effort rather than letting things flow. When you’re hideously busy then it takes more than good intentions to keep an active sex life.

Hopefully both of us hitting the gym on a regular basis will help too!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@roweboat:  I agree with you. Exercise is great!

Also, I’m finding that being happy and in a good mood is much more encouraging to sexy behavior than grumpiness is, even if the grumpiness is not directed at the other person. Stress and worries are not sexy, at least in this household. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, communication.  He is much more vocal in bed now, compared to when we were first together.  It was SILENCE!  I tell him what I like and I let him know what’s not really working.  Experience with each other has also helped tremendously.  The longer you’re together the more you get to know each other and the more you know what works! 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Communicating and non-sexual touching. Lately I’ve finally managed to communicate this (my need for non-sexual touching) to Darling Husband in a way he understood, and there’s been a lot more kissing, hugging and touching in bed, even when we don’t have sex. And the sex has been better too. Happy times ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Jogging/exercise definitely has been helping mine. In the past few weeks since I started jogging, I’ve not only lost 10 pounds but doubled the frequency of my sex life. & communication is HUGE….our sex life wasn’t at it’s best when we were LD but once we moved in together it was a wonderful journey of really learning what we like both together & separately

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As simple as it sounds…..

 

Moving in together ๐Ÿ˜›

 

When we were living at home with parents… I guess we never felt 100% comfortable as we were nervous about someone walking in on us.

 

However, in our own home, Fiance and I are sooooo laid back and have an amazing sex life ๐Ÿ™‚

 

YAY for us!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

For me, it was learning to let go by understanding that Fiance simply doesn’t care about a little bit of tummy flab or some cellulite on my thighs and his through process when we’re having sex is basically ‘boobs boobs boobs booooooooobs’. 

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