Post # 1
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11 posts
Newbee
Hi Bees!
I have been lurking around for the past couple of weeks before finally deciding to write a post of my own.
SO and I have been together for more than 6 years and we finally had a decent conversation about getting married. He said that even though I’ve been telling everyone that I don’t want to get married yet, he knows that deep inside I do (I was in denial and he figured it out before I did). He knows which ring I want and my ring size (I may have hinted this in the past). And *drumroll* he will propose before the year ends but of course he won’t tell me when exactly. After that conversation, I found myself in a much better disposition. But I only stayed there for about 2 weeks and things went downhill from there. Well, not exactly but there are good waiting days and bad waiting days. Yesterday was just so awful. I was holding back the tears throughout the day at work! But a goodnight’s sleep eventually relieved me from that negative pit.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my SO to bits! He is an amazingly wonderful man!
BUT.
Waiting is not my forte.
I tell myself that maybe this waiting bit will teach me to be more patient in life in general. And/or other things/phrases/anecdotes that will help me but like I said, there are good waiting days and then there are bad waitings days.
So my question is, how do you get through the bad ones?
Post # 3
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100 posts
Blushing bee
When I’m having a bad waiting day I make a cup of tea and come on here to commiserate with other waiting bees! It really helps me vent and feel like I’m not alone so I don’t bring it up to my boyfriend. I also put a picture on my desktop reminding me that it will happen when it happens and to just enjoy the simplicity and happiness of being just his girlfriend.
And hooray for knowing that he’ll propose to you by the end of the year!
Post # 4
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11 posts
Newbee
@Purple_Possum: Thank you! I like the tea and desktop picture idea. I’ll do that too! I have not mentioned the word “wedding” to my SO in like two weeks and I’m proud of that 🙂
Post # 5
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2522 posts
Sugar bee
Things to help with bad waiting days:
-Wine/Rum
-Chocolate
-Errands
-Homework
-SEX
-Exercise (I prefer swimming, myself)
-Hanging out with friends
-Lunch date with mom/dad/aunt/whoever in your family likes to eat
-Video games
-Sleep!
I’m sure there’s more but those help me on days I get a little too antsy for my own good. Generally I’m so busy with school and sports it’s hard to think of much else, but that’s a good thing. The busier you are, the less you’ll think about waiting, trust me.
Post # 7
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237 posts
Helper bee
Start planning your wedding…and, my mom always said “you’re only a kid thiiis much *holds fingers an inch apart* but you’re an adult forever after.” You will be married your whole life. Your “single” life (in the sense of being unofficially committed, free to go, free to doubt) will be over in just a few months. Enjoy it now, before kids (if that’s the way you’re going) and marriage. Just be excited. There are far, far, far worse things to be waiting on edge for.
Post # 8
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2949 posts
Sugar bee
- I throw myself into my studies
- Spend time with my girlfriends
- Treat/pamper myself
- Hang out on the Waiting board
And if all else fails, I turn to what comforts me when postgrad frustrates me, wine or Jack Daniels Honey scotch whiskey
Post # 9
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3667 posts
Sugar bee
School keeps me pretty busy, but when I have the time I like to do a little pampering (face mask and a mani/pedi) while catching up on a TV show.
Post # 10
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11 posts
Newbee
So the key is to keep myself busy and be positive. Thank you ladies 🙂
Post # 11
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65 posts
Worker bee
- Cake
- Cake
- More Cake
- Cookies
- My fav shows on Hulu
Just a few of the things I enjoy on my bad waiting days
Post # 12
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5867 posts
Bee Keeper
Focus on the good parts of being unmarried that you’ll have to give up. Might as well enjoy it now! For me these aer thinkings like having my own appartment, not having any complications regarding merging finances, not having everyone we know hassle us about when we’ll have babies, etc.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Reading stuff that is fun. Going out with friends. Signing up and participating in 8 million activities. I think that you should be able to breathe a huge sigh of relief though, now that you know it’s coming!
Post # 15
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699 posts
Busy bee
@NoraNorthman: i recall all the bridezilla stories i can and brose through the emotional area, it reminds me that weddings aren’t all sunshine and roses
Post # 16
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87 posts
Worker bee
Tearing up bridal magazines -___________-
But seriously I just try to remind myself that I;m fabulous and I don’t need a man’s promis in order to be happy 🙂 At least I have plenty of time to get that perfect body for the big day x
These boards!