(Closed) What??? I don’t get people

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@mags2233: I think until you plan a wedding, most people are unaware of the common happenings of wedding planning. I think your friend is excited for you and doesn’t have a clue about planning a wedding or what it really costs haha.

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The bride is NOT responsible for the bridesmaids dresses. Your friend is ignorantly misinformed. I would definately set her straight on that, before even thinking of asking her to be in your wedding.

Post # 5
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012


One of my bridemaids complained to me that she didn’t want to spend 200 on a dress she wasn’t going to wear again. And I mean, I get it, and I’m sure I’ve thought the same thing at one point. But in the end I compromised and paid her deposit. I kind of wish I hadn’t, because she is very well taken care of (and spoiled), and I would have much rather helped another girl out that just paid her own tuition herself the day before. :/ It’s a tricky thing! I’ve just been rolling with whatever comes my way and trying not to let anything get to me. 

Post # 6
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my opinion, you know that when you agree to be a bridesmaid, you have to pay for the dress amongst other things.  If you can’t afford to do it, don’t agree to the job! 

As far as ASKING to be in the wedding…holy cow!  I would be annoyed lol.

Post # 8
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think some people dont know what goes on in reguards to wedding planning, until you are involved in the planning yourself. but I do think that its odd she thought that you were going to pay. I know some brides do that to be nice or if its in their budgets, but honestly I have never thought that the bride was responsible. I knew the rules of the bridesmaids etc way before I started planning my wedding. 

Post # 9
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t get angry with her, this might just be a mistake on her part.

Many people don’t realize that the bride doesn’t have to pay for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She may have even known a bride that did pay so she assumed this was the custom (I know I plan on paying for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but that’s just me).

Post # 10
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like your friend wants a free dress-up day on your dime! I’ve never planned a wedding but I have always known that if you’re asked to be in someone’s wedding, the bridesmaid pays for the dress, shoes, hair and makeup unless the Bride has said otherwise.

Post # 11
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013 - Home

You are the only one who knows your friend and her possible motives, but I recommend giving her the benefit of the doubt. She sounds really excited for you and wanted to be a part of the fun.

Post # 12
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with Beingwe.  Although it is a strange presumption surrounding the bride paying for the dress (IMO anyway).  It sounds to me like she is just really excited for you, and may have never been involved closely with a wedding before, so isn’t sure who everything normally works.

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