(Closed) What I have concluded about the Hive….

posted 10 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 17
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Its funny but in group in-person conversations, I find the exact opposite like a competition of who has the worst (fill in the blank). Someone will vent that something is bad with their salary, house, SO and everyone chimes in like yea you think that’s bad…

Post # 18
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6391 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would definitely agree. I’m not exactly ashamed of my 03 Saturn Ion (we bought it as a lemon, so it’s not even as good as it sounds :)), it’s not something that I would think others would find interesting, so I didn’t bother posting it. If I had a Lambourghini…I would probably talk about it all day long!

Post # 19
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6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My first though from reading the OP is that is honestly one of the reasons why DH was determined to buy me a certain size diamond. As a disclaimer, please realize he could totally afford it and paid it off in a few months (since he had no savings). But he knew that I would encounter situations like this (he was thinking more in person, but I digress..) where I would be ‘compared’ to other women. In his mind, he quantified a larger diamond as making me ‘proud to show it off’ (his exact words). Of course, the truth is I wanted to get engaged so badly I didn’t care if it was a pebble from outside covered in dirt!

Post # 20
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@bride2beIn2012: we noticed that during our honeymoon! Other couples were like “you think YOU had drama, well before our wedding blah blah blah” We sort of laughed it off until comparing notes with another couple (DH had MAJOR family drama the week before we got married) and the guy half of the couple goes “you think that’s bad, my dad stood up at the rehearsal dinner and announced he and my mother were filing for divorce” We were like “ok, you win hands down” Yikes!

Post # 21
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just envisioned myself telling my class “The other day on The Weddingbee Website there was a post about ______… is this a good representation of the population of women for…weddingbee, US, World etc” LOL

Post # 22
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Or. There can be a percentage of people who are just private and don’t wish to share all that information.Smile

If ladies really want to talk $$$ of their ring then we should talk metal too, no?
A .5ct platinum ring would cost more than a slightly larger diamond that is white gold. A 18K white gold band will be more than 14K, etc etc.

Post # 23
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@Gerbera: Also, my ring is probably smaller than average, but I also have NO IDEA what the carat weight is.  It’s not even a diamond and I don’t know if they really measure emeralds the same way.  I am so not a jewelry person!  All I know is it is pretty and green and it suits us, and I’d never post on a thread comparing diamonds because I have nothing useful to say.

Post # 23
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve not posted my carat size, I to be honest don’t know or care.  It’s small, but so am I, the bigger rings took over my hand and were “too flashy”. 

As for my car, I did post that, lol.  I guess working in insurance vehicles intrigue me..  I have an ’02 explorer (or exploder as I lovingly refer to it) 😉  Fiance has an ’87 honda accord he uses to commute it gets 30 mpg and no payment, then his gas/money pit a ’76 lifted Ford.  We’re looking at Volvo’s though, the XC90 in particular because of it’s price it’s thousands cheaper than buying new and we’ve gotta have the 3rd row due to all the kiddos. 

I did notice the amound of luxury cars, and almost didn’t post though.  We’re younger and have both been through a divorce, the truth of the matter is it ruins your credit and you basically have to start from scratch. 

Post # 24
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I don’t think carat of ring equates cost. My husband bought a 1.5 carat ring off ebay for 600 bucks. Was it legitimate, who knows? Furthermore, people inherit rings. There are so many factors to consider you’re just grazing a superficial surface.

Post # 25
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Entangled:

Exactly. Most people are too caught up on carat size. If I had anything bigger (it’s a modest size) it will look stupid on my finger.


And there’s cut and clarity too. Too much involved in diamonds and stones and metals to simply say carat size and assume a person has a better/more expensive ring than you.

Besides, it’s just not important.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

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@sloth: Totally agree on this. Met a law school classmate on the train once. She was dripping in jewelry which to my inexperienced eye looked expensive and she starts going on and on about where she works (HUGE Midtown firm that starts folks at $175,000 so after 5 years, guess what she earns??!) and to make sure I come for the 5 year reunion for law school. Now, I have kept in touch with only 2 ppl from school and we are not really into reminiscing except about crushing school loans but you bet I didn’t go. Didn’t want to answer questions like “And where do you work?” “Oh, that firm, how…. nice?” Grrrr!!

Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@Gerbera: I completely agree as well. There is much more to a diamond than size alone. I’ve seen very large stones with NO sparkle at all because they are so included. And smaller stones that have SO much sparkle they are just STUNNING because cut, color and clarity are SO good.

Also it is about your finger size, style, etc as well.

I am guilty of posting in the carat size threads because I am so excited about EVERYTHING engagement and wedding related. I’ve been waiting 6 1/2 years for this and I want to celebrate it all (plus it’s better to do it here than to people at work and end up alienating all my friends because I’m the girl who can only talk about her wedding).

Post # 28
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

And size doenst necessarily = cost.  I was looking at 1 carat rings on amazon and they had them for $800.  Also, a larger carat may not look good on you if you are a petite person or have tiny fingers.

And I agree with the pp who said metal cost a lot too.  I have seen platnum settings without the diamond for $6,000.  I thought, that must include the diamond right?  Wrong.  Bring your own diamond.

I also read in Brides magazine (dont know how reliable this is) that the average cost of a ring is just under $4000.

Post # 29
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1525 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I love this post. Mainly bc there are so many ppl here on WB who are scared to post things bc they dont feel they ‘size up’ to ppl showing off there brand new BMW or their Tiffany & Co or Harry Winston rings. I have never been one to care about what others think of my belonging but I take very dear care of them because I work so hard for the things I had. I had my daughter at 16 and was a single mom or a long time until I met DH in Feb 2009. I appreciate the value of a dollar and know what it takes to have nicer things. Point of spilling all that was, I have noticed myself second guessing whether or not to put my ring on here to show everyone. I have a really modest ring. It a .5 carat solitaire in a simple gold band. DH didnt pay a anything at all for it. His mom gave it to him to propose with and he was suppose to take me ring shopping later. Turns out the ring belong to his great great great grandma, it was her wedding ring and I was overwhelmed that Mother-In-Law would think so highly of me to pass this ring on. Well a year later we are married and I am still wearing that ring, with no wedding band and its not because we cant afford it. I just look at it like I have a ring, why do I need another one… I always find other placed for that money lol. 

Post # 30
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1525 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow i just noticed a lot of Washington bees on this thread, I just moved to Washington about a month ago…how neat =)

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