- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
However, my Fiance is still a very grateful person for what he has. I don’t think his situation made him “spoiled”. His situation opened my eyes up to the fact that people can have lucky breaks in life and still be very hard-working, frugal, and grateful people.
Eh, I’ll take it further. If someone is 21 and in college and gets a $60k car from M&D…lucky them. If someone’s parents want to throw them a $200,000 wedding, lucky them. I have some friends who’s parents bought them their first houses. In my field, there are a lot of women who earn $20K to have an entry-level job at an art gallery yet wear head-to-toe Prada and live in SoHo lofts because they come from money. Not fair that we all can’t live like that, but doesn’t make them bad people.
…or have we gotten a bit off track?
Yes, we have gotten off track! 🙂
I don’t think the OP was saying or suggesting that people who have nice stuff are bad people but just that people who have bigger/better/fancier cars, jobs, bling, etc. are more likely to show and tell in a post.
So while it’s nice that people have nice things it also isn’t representing what people have on average, I think she was just making a point. Same thing with that post where everyone was posting about how ‘fat’ they were, it turned into a post where it seemed like people were trying to compete to be the tallest/skinniest person while still claiming rolly polliness.
“I don’t think it’s fair to assume that the majority of those under 25 who have nice things either went into debt for them or had someone else buy them.”
Reality is most of them probably did have someone gift it to them or they went into debt.
Some young people are already very successful and well off, kudos to them!
But most are just getting started. No degree yet or a newly earned degree, little or no income, no work history to build up savings. So when you see a 21 year old college student working 10 hours a week at McDonalds and driving a brand new Lexus; it’s more likely that their parents bought it than the college student bought it.
I don’t see that as “offensive” to anyone. It’s reality.
(And I personally don’t care what they drive or who paid for it. Nor do I care what people think about what I drive or who paid for it. )
Back to the topic at hand.
I think threads asking these types of questions that contain polls probably represent (in the poll) more of the WeddingBee community reality. It is interesting to me to see poll results, but then see the majority of responses come from those who in a “minority” are of the poll.
It also allows those who are more private to share their situation without their name posted to it.
Yet another reason why I love polls.
Well I started the car thread because my car is 10 years old and I may be thinking about a new one soon, so I wanted ideas. I thought the responses (80+) were all varieties and interesting to read. I didn’t get the feeling it was all luxury cars at all but maybe I don’t know much about car prices, lol . If there were a dozen Ferraris and Maseratis I probably would’ve noticed and that definitely wasn’t the case. In fact I noticed many girls drove 10+ year old cars like me and I thought after reading that my car may still last me a while.
I did notice that on the “do you get jealous of girls with big boobs” thread pretty much all the responses from girls who DID have big boobs. Not one person wrote “yeah I feel insufficient in that department”, though I’m sure there must be people who feel that way. I know I have my own body insecurities, and if I started a thread about feeling overweight and all the responses were “well I’m thin and fit so I don’t have that problem” I’d probably feel even worse.
@KatNYC2011 – You are taking this personally; it’s not. I don’t care what they have, what you have, or who paid for any of it. If you are young and have tons of money, good for you; but most people can’t afford to start buying nice things until after college and they have a career.
Just a different way of thinking I guess. No hard feelings at all. I just never thought of it another way.
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