- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
I have a 1995 Celica and proud of if it! 🙂
I have a 1995 Celica and proud of if it! 🙂
@KatNYC2011 – I don’t sit around that think about what other people have unless it’s pointed out to do so (such as this thread).
The only person who cares is the person who owns it. Who else besides my fiance and I cares what car I drive? Nobody. Do I care what cars my friends or coworkers drive? Nope.
But when someone points out what they have and is making a big deal of it, and obviously aren’t in a position to buy it themselves, it will cross my mind that they likely didn’t pay for it themselves or they are getting in over their head. (I’m not saying anybody here was making a big deal of what they have, I’m just talking in general.)
I only skimmed this responses in these posts, but for FWIW I usually choose not to comment on posts that don’t pertain to me or that I don’t care to share with the internet world.
Many would say that my ring is “small” based on the OP’s stats. But it’s not! It’s actually the perfect size for me, not too big, not too small.. just right! But… I never volunteer that info on WB because well…. that’s my business!
I don’t own a car, so commenting on that thread would be pointless. When I did have a car, it was a POS honda, so that wouldn’t really help the OP who was looking to purchase a new vehicle.
Oh and my boobs are teeny tiny, and yes I am jealous of well endowed ladies, but just didn’t feel like commenting on that thread because well… I’m trying real hard to be happy with what I’ve got!
In general, I tend to take stats with a grain of salt. It’s so difficult to get a really good unbiased answer to anything.
When someone tries to throw a stat at me I usually respond with “87% of all stats are made up on the spot.” It’s good for a laugh and just reminds people that stats aren’t always the best way to defend an argument.
WOW THIS GOT TOTALLY OFF TRACK!
Sorry if anyone thought I was saying people with nicer things are less virtuous or more materialistic? I was just trying to say that I think “averages” are skewed because certain people are more or less likely to post on certain threads. no judgement WHATSOEVER!
What would be very interesting to find out is WHO IS THE AVERAGE BEE? You know how a lot of different comapnies have a “target customer?” For example, working at Nordstrom, each department has it’s own ideal customer. Individualist, for example was: a college educated, career woman, married wtih children. Well off, has a flair for fashion and style. Drives a luxury SUV. Always looks professional, etc.
Well, what is the average bee? Maybe averages seem skewed because well off to-be brides are more likely to join the hive than to-be brides who are lower on the economic scale? Maybe people join weddingbee because they want to have the wedding of a lifetime, and people who don’t have a ton of money don’t really have interest in throwing the wedding of a lifetime?
And I know there are gonna be a ton of exceptions to this broad generalization, I am only talking averages.
I know I am not the average bride on here. I am 21, in school full time, work full time, and have parents who give me jack nothing. haha.
WHAT DO WE THINK ABOUT THIS?
I have no idea what the “target bee” is. But based on the majority of bee bloggers I will go out on a limb and say the average bee is not the “target bee”.
If that makes any sense.
And I have to agree when it comes to personal data I am more willing to share via poll than posting.
We could try to bucket the hive into averages like age, salary, education, ring size, wedding cost, job, etc. But I don’t know what the “average consumer” or “target consumer” (for lack of a better term) of the Bee would be.
One thing that was new to me was there is a huge DIY population. I didn’t realize DIY was such a strong force until coming here as my main experiences of weddings were from magazines and movies, with a few friends weddings thrown in here and there.
There are all kinds of issues with finding the “average” on WB.
If you ask, how much did your wedding cost, people are very likely to start spewing numbers ($1k, $5k, $10k, $20k, $50k). However, rarely does it go much deaper than that. People don’t say how they came up with those numbers. Are they budgets or actual costs? Do they include the rings, honeymoon and wedding attire?
Same goes for the ring thing. I think many people may post total carat weight while others report center carat weight. Its comparing apples to oranges.
I do think that assumptions are extremely dangerous, one way or the other. I don’t have a lot of money, but I have priorities and apply my savings and efforts accordingly. I have what I consider to be a very large ring–1.5 carats–but it’s a family stone that was always going to be my FI’s to give to whomever he was going to marry. I don’t think that’s him mooching, or me mooching, it just is. I am very lucky.
I also pack my lunch and make all our meals and foods and such, and we often don’t do fun social things (like going to Sox games or whatever) because we’ve been carefully saving for a down payment and those coveted granite counters in the kitchen (someday! I hope!). Am I still pretty young and in grad school? Yep! Does that mean I’m mooching off my parents? No, it means I saved carefully while I worked, I worked starting in high school, and my priorities are what they are.
There are so many ways to interpret everything, and it is very hard to know what’s going on unless you’re part of the situation.
That said, I think the threads and stats often ARE skewed, and that’s really interesting to see it pointed out!
@heatherrobyn: I think these observations are pretty valid, but I also think that a lot of the women who are super duper involved on these sites are either DIY’ers or women who are planning ultimate “dream” weddings and many of them are spending LOTS of money to do so, so it would make sense that a lot of the posters talk about big diamonds or expensive cars.
My ring has a .54ct round center and about .18 in pave side stones. My center diamond is an “heirloom” diamond that my FI’s mother gave him to use, but if I had my choice, I’d honestly be rocking a 1ct center right now. I used to work at a jewelry store and I saw 2ct and 3ct rings often and many of them looked so big/gaudy that they seemed awkward/fake looking. I would go 1.5cts max.
And I LOVE my car — I drive a newer Jeep Wrangler and it’s my baby 🙂 For the amount I paid for my car+upgrades, I could be driving a solid BMW or Mercedes right now, but I just love Jeeps! I come from a Jeep family and so its kinda a thing of mine. My next car will be one of the 4-door versions so I can fit the kiddos in easily 🙂
Interesting and very true! Good observation!
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