- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi Bee’s –
I just posted a full recap of my own wedding last night – it’s here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/meant2bees-may-dream-wedding-pro-pic-recap-lots-of-pics/#axzz387ZfZjF1
But I wanted to share my experience attending two weddings last week. The first was a destination wedding in Costa Rica. Mid-way through my wedding planning I had WISHED so badly that I would have just done a Destination Wedding to begin with. But now that I have returned from one, I am feeling better about the fact that there is no way my controlling self would have been able to do a Destination Wedding. First off – find the BEST travel agent you can find! I didn’t realize how big of a deal the travel agent was until this wedding. She misspelled many of the guest names causing them to get their airline ticket changed (no fee for mispells) and also issues when checking into the hotel room. She also put 4 people into ONE room as opposed to putting 2 people in two seperate rooms. Foruntely the hotel took care of it.
If I were a Bride I would arrive at least one day before your guest arrive to your Destination Wedding. Check and make sure everyone’s room is confirmed and READY when they get there. All of our rooms were still being cleaned and we were hot, tired, and hungry when we arrived. If possible create a “welcome room” for your guest to get out of the heat and enjoy some snacks and beverages while their bags are being taken to their rooms.
Schedule group activities before arriving to your Destination Wedding. This way your guest can deciede ahead of time if they want to participate. Also, avoid excursions the day before your wedding. We went as a group on an excursion the day before the wedding and I could barely wake up the next morning.
Have a coordinator who is NOT affliated with the resort. Resorts are doing weddings every hour on the hour, you won’t have that individual attenion you need as a Bride. Even if it’s a family member – have someone so you don’t have to answer all the questions.
If you are having a wedding on the beach, have someone bring something to clean you off with after the ceremony.
Now, the other wedding I attended had a few things I would like to advise bee’s about. Please, please, please encourage your best man/maid of honor to write or at least think about their wedding speech. The toast were more like a roast and were uncomfortable to sit through. Also, limit your speeches…after the 5th person I stopped listening.
You don’t have to have a certain number of bridesmaid/groomsmans to have a wedding. It was so obvious that some of the wedding party had no interest in being there. One of the bridesmaid actually took off her dress after the ceremony and put pants on! I couldn’t believe it and felt so sad for the Bride. I would have been better if she had only two amazing bridesmaid instead of 5 horrible ones.
End your wedding on a high. People WILL start to leave no matter how great your wedding is – because it’s SO many hours! We left about 7 1/2 hours in and I felt so bad but I was still pretty jet lagged. Remind people that you are having a send off but don’t make your wedding too long to begin with.
Hope that was helpful!