- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
I was just married three days ago now. It was truly the happiest day of my life and I had an amazing time. I did learn some important things.
1. Nothing matters more than actually getting married. This sounds obvious, but I was so stressed about details right up until I saw my fiance at the end of the aisle. 30 mins later he was my husband and nothing else mattered at all. A few things went wrong and I just didn’t care at all. I felt like I was walking on air and all I wanted to do was hug and kiss my new husband. 🙂
Okay, main point aside, here’s some other tips.
2. Get a makeup artist. Beg, borrow or steal to make this happen. I was planning on doing my own makeup, but found someone at the last minute. I am so glad I did. She made me look amazing and beautiful and I was such a nervous wreck I could not have done a good job myself.
3. Add interesting details to your ceremony and make it personal. We had a handfasting, my sister read a poem, we had someone sing a beautiful song, the officiant told some funny stories about us and how we met and we read some special words to each other that we had kept secret. This was all in addition to the vows. It sounds like a lot, but it goes faster than you think and this is the biggest most important part of the whole day. We got excellent feedback from the guests, who all seemed to really enjoy it.
4. Make sure you have a plan for going to the bathroom, especially if you have a big or elaborate dress. Seriously. I had to have my maids help me all the way out of my dress and bar the door so that no one caught me in my underwear! Plan a good time to go when there is a lull in the proceedings and no one will be wondering where the bride is.
5. If you’re a stessed bride like I was, make sure your seamstress makes your dress a little tight. I ended up losing quite a bit of weight the week before the wedding and even though the dress fit well, the underskirt kept slipping down and it made a little ridge in the dress that shows in some of the photos. Also, test out things like the bra strap holders etc. Mine where attached by snappers and they didn’t really hold. Eventually my bra started showing a little at the back. Meh, oh well (see tip 1), photographer can edit this out btw! Yay!
6. You know how they always say to pack an emergency kit? Do it! We needed bandaids for blisters, mints, extra hairspray, aspirin and safety pins after my dad stood on the back of my dress and ripped it slightly. (I didn’t really care at this point, see number 1)
7. Another big dress tip, but consider a reception dress if you have a big heavy ball gown. After wearing mine right up until the after the first dance it was a relief to get into the smaller, lighter one. I loved my big dress and it made for really beautiful dramatic photos, but I would not have had a good time dragging it around the dancefloor.
8. Weird one, but check where your cake will be set up and make sure it’s not too hot. We had to cut ours a bit early as it started to melt a bit and was getting a slight leen to it! But even if it felt in a heap it would not really have mattered. Again, see tip one.
9. Allow loads of extra time to get ready. However long you think it will take, add an hour or two so you can relax and not rush.
10. When getting ready, surround yourself with people who you think will stay calm and limit the number. I was in quite a large room getting ready with only 5 others, plus photographer, and it was still a bit to loud and noisy. I was also so nervous I could hardly think just before the ceremony. My Maid/Matron of Honor was amazing and kept just getting me what I needed and helping me without being asked. I could not have imagined a better or more supportive friend to have by my side. Love her!
11. Last tip. Choose vendors that are nice people as well as doing a good job. Everyone we worked with was amazing. They were so nice, sweet and supportive. Our photographer was so calm and got things organized, the hairdresser was lovely and helped my nerves. The florist was so sweet. The master of ceremonies really went above and beyond the call of duty. We were all having a mint right before walking down the aisle, to ensure good breath of course. I suddenly realised I was not going to be able to finish mine and would not be able to speak well with it in my mouth. I was panicking trying to find a trash can and he just held out his hand and said “give it to me”. This is so gross, but he took the mint, that had just been in my mouth, in his hand and got rid of it for me. Real dedication to duty! What can you ask for above that?!?
Hopefully this will help any brides to be. All the best with all your upcoming weddings!