(Closed) What I wish people told me about being plus sized and looking for a dress….

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I doubt the woman was trying to offend you. It could be a cultural difference, and since you’re wanting/planning to lose weight, I wouldn’t get too angry. I mean, after all, you were already planning to.

But, moreso back on topic: Is there a possibility to have your dress custom made? Find elements of dresses you like and have a seamstress locally tailor it to you? That way it will be made for you to whatever size you end up being and you won’t have to worry about settling on a dress just because they have the proper size.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What city are you from?  I am in Minnesota and there is a store that is spefically for sizes 12-30. I went and enjoyed my experience, but did not end up purchasing my dress from there.  I found out about that store thrugh weddingwire.com.  The owner started it because of watching others be treated the way you have been!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I also like the idea of you having a custom made dress!  I have read a lot of good things on this forum about Jasmine’s and other places that will make dresses for a good price.

For the record I was plus sized (size 24 maybe, now size 8) when I got married and I purchased my dress from David’s Bridal.  I found something I thought looked good on me and stopped there, I was never on the search for “the dress” so I could understand how shopping at DB might not be for everyone.  I got tons of compliments on my dress though, so I am happy with how it worked out.  If I could redo it, I might think about getting a custom dress 🙂

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Go to the AA store, also try bonny.com and see if there is a retailer newar you, they have awesome full figure dresses.  I travled about an hour from my home to find a dress.

I would recommend trying on all the dresses that fit regardless of whether or not they have have elements you like or dislike. That way you can get a feel for different silohettes. From there narrow down what you want your dress to look like ie. lace, satin, organza, will it have pickups, a train, ruffles….you get the picture.

I actually ordered my dress without ever trying it on.  I found similar silohettes that I liked but the dress either was too safe or too busy. I found the perfect medium in the Maggie I chose. All I could really do was put on a dress with the same shape that fit me closely enough and then the sales lady tied the Monet to me and I ahd to use my imagination.

I know it’s hard to do and I actually cried when I got a gown on that actually zipped up the back, but I felt like a catholic princess, it would have been perfect if we were getting married in my church, but it’s outdoors, I had to think about what I truly wanted and not settle for what fit.

I’m sure Kleinfelds will be able to accomodate your budget, some of the episodes on Say Yes with the plus size brides had even more modest budgets than yourself and they all found dresses.

The perfect dress for you is out there, just keep searching. I didn’t have luck at my small hometown boutiqques either. Best of luck!

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree that custom made may be the way to go, but I would recommend purchasing a dress you know will fit you (maybe go a size or two up to be sure) online in a decent quality fabric… discount websites are a dime a dozen so that should be no problem for, say, $500. Choose a very basic but good quality dress and that still leaves plenty of room in your budget to change the neckline, add details, a bolero, etc, etc… the possibilities are endless. Though not plus sized, I had trouble finding what I was looking for and ended up getting a nice simple dress off a discount rack for $50 and am going to change the neckline and add some details I’ve got my heart set on but can’t seem to find. It’s way cheaper to alter details on an existing dress than to have one made for you from scratch!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel your pain! I’m about the same size as you and visited and called every bridal salon in the southern part of Michigan. Basically, I realized that ballgowns were the only thing that would work for my shape (I carry everything in my stomach) so I searched online for one that I loved. I’ve tried on a couple of Allure ballgowns (even a size 12!) so I felt confident in ordering a different style Allure ballgown that I loved without being able to try it on.

If the ballgown didn’t fit over your hips, why didn’t she put it on over your head?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel for you as well!! Having similar issues (I am a size 20)… but i am not giving up hope that i will find something that i love and am not settling on! I am considering making a treck to a plus size bridal store… just wish there was one in FL!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

So sorry it’s being so frustrating, but hang in there and I every confidence that you will find the right dress and it will look smashing and you will look beautiful.

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