Post # 1
I know I’ve ranted here quite a bit, but, sometimes I find it therapeutic to get things off my chest. I went to a tiny shop near my house today, the woman was very sweet and told me that she is pretty sure there is SOMETHING I can try on (on my size 24/26) body. However they are busy at the moment and she told me to come back in an hour. An hour later I come back hopeful to try ANYTHING on (as thus far it has proved nearly impossible to try on any dresses, besides David’s bridal, which I wasnt impressed with) so eagarly she brings me over a really pretty ballgown in an 18, unfortunately it didnt even fit over my hips, she regretfully told me that was the largest sample the had, she then showed me a really pretty Maggie soterro two-piece gown which had a GORGEOUS corsetted heavily beaded top and a big satin ball gown skirt….I could only try on the top…sort of…lol super pretty though, the sales woman seemed patient, yet, discouraged,she was an older eastern european woman who sweetly said “well, dont worry sweetie, near your wedding, you will be much smaller, have you tried weight watchers? ummmm….hello?!? did i come here to ask for weight management counciling? at what point of this appointment did i allude to even WANTING to lose weight?!? (i mean, obviously I want to…but she didnt need to assume that…)funny enough, I’ve been going through this same thing for a couple months now, so im sadly, getting VERY used to be the really fat bride who’s desperate to try on anything, and ultimately not finding anything…I refuse to go back to David’s bridal, I felt like I was truly just settling solely based on the fact that they had things in my size. I’ve been in touch with an Alfred Angelo signature store, about an hour and a half away, they seem pleasant but again, seem to have MAYBE 8 dresses on sight in which I will be able to try on. I have a kleinfeld appointment in February….I’m on a budget of $2,000 so I am skeptical that, THAT place will have something in my size thats not $10,000….arghhhh!!!!! Sorry guys, I seriously had to get this all out, if you’ve read all this, and think I’m insane…..thats ok. I think I’m insane too…lol
Post # 3
I doubt the woman was trying to offend you. It could be a cultural difference, and since you’re wanting/planning to lose weight, I wouldn’t get too angry. I mean, after all, you were already planning to.
But, moreso back on topic: Is there a possibility to have your dress custom made? Find elements of dresses you like and have a seamstress locally tailor it to you? That way it will be made for you to whatever size you end up being and you won’t have to worry about settling on a dress just because they have the proper size.
Post # 4
What city are you from? I am in Minnesota and there is a store that is spefically for sizes 12-30. I went and enjoyed my experience, but did not end up purchasing my dress from there. I found out about that store thrugh weddingwire.com. The owner started it because of watching others be treated the way you have been!
Post # 5
I also like the idea of you having a custom made dress! I have read a lot of good things on this forum about Jasmine’s and other places that will make dresses for a good price.
For the record I was plus sized (size 24 maybe, now size 8) when I got married and I purchased my dress from David’s Bridal. I found something I thought looked good on me and stopped there, I was never on the search for “the dress” so I could understand how shopping at DB might not be for everyone. I got tons of compliments on my dress though, so I am happy with how it worked out. If I could redo it, I might think about getting a custom dress 🙂
Post # 6
Go to the AA store, also try bonny.com and see if there is a retailer newar you, they have awesome full figure dresses. I travled about an hour from my home to find a dress.
I would recommend trying on all the dresses that fit regardless of whether or not they have have elements you like or dislike. That way you can get a feel for different silohettes. From there narrow down what you want your dress to look like ie. lace, satin, organza, will it have pickups, a train, ruffles….you get the picture.
I actually ordered my dress without ever trying it on. I found similar silohettes that I liked but the dress either was too safe or too busy. I found the perfect medium in the Maggie I chose. All I could really do was put on a dress with the same shape that fit me closely enough and then the sales lady tied the Monet to me and I ahd to use my imagination.
I know it’s hard to do and I actually cried when I got a gown on that actually zipped up the back, but I felt like a catholic princess, it would have been perfect if we were getting married in my church, but it’s outdoors, I had to think about what I truly wanted and not settle for what fit.
I’m sure Kleinfelds will be able to accomodate your budget, some of the episodes on Say Yes with the plus size brides had even more modest budgets than yourself and they all found dresses.
The perfect dress for you is out there, just keep searching. I didn’t have luck at my small hometown boutiqques either. Best of luck!
Post # 7
I agree that custom made may be the way to go, but I would recommend purchasing a dress you know will fit you (maybe go a size or two up to be sure) online in a decent quality fabric… discount websites are a dime a dozen so that should be no problem for, say, $500. Choose a very basic but good quality dress and that still leaves plenty of room in your budget to change the neckline, add details, a bolero, etc, etc… the possibilities are endless. Though not plus sized, I had trouble finding what I was looking for and ended up getting a nice simple dress off a discount rack for $50 and am going to change the neckline and add some details I’ve got my heart set on but can’t seem to find. It’s way cheaper to alter details on an existing dress than to have one made for you from scratch!
Post # 8
Thank you all for your opinions, I’m gonna keep trucking on this journey, and just hope for the best!
Post # 9
I feel your pain! I’m about the same size as you and visited and called every bridal salon in the southern part of Michigan. Basically, I realized that ballgowns were the only thing that would work for my shape (I carry everything in my stomach) so I searched online for one that I loved. I’ve tried on a couple of Allure ballgowns (even a size 12!) so I felt confident in ordering a different style Allure ballgown that I loved without being able to try it on.
If the ballgown didn’t fit over your hips, why didn’t she put it on over your head?
Post # 10
I feel for you as well!! Having similar issues (I am a size 20)… but i am not giving up hope that i will find something that i love and am not settling on! I am considering making a treck to a plus size bridal store… just wish there was one in FL!
Post # 11
So sorry it’s being so frustrating, but hang in there and I every confidence that you will find the right dress and it will look smashing and you will look beautiful.