Post # 1
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Busy bee
Bees,
As the titile implies- what do you consider to be the most important ideals or morals in grounding your relationship/marriage? Traditionally I guess it would be fidelity, loyality, love. Personally- equality, tolerance, kindness, acknowledgement, caring and passion, creativity too, would top my list. Other ideals that appeal to me would be inclusion, thoughtfulness, recognition, sincerity and choice.
On the same note- In writing your own vows – was there any ideas that you knew from the outset you needed to include?
I’ll be interested to see!
Cheers Bees!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Equality, respect, patience, a sense of humor (always important), communication, and of course love.
But these are things I don’t consider requirements, just building blocks. We are by no means perfect on any of these things. 🙂
As for vows, I very much want to include the sense of humor aspect of our relationship. If you knew us, you’d know why we need one, haha! 😀
Post # 5
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Honey bee
@justjade: We wrote our vows based on a list of values that were important to us. I don’t remember them exactly, but I know it included:
– honesty
– supporting one another
– being a team
– communication
– respect
– equality
– putting each other first
– fidelity
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Respect, equality, (com)passion, honesty, being a team, tolerance, a sense of humor, and much more.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Great topic! PPs have covered it nicely. 🙂
For us, one aspect we are focusing on is the concept of “us” before everyone else. Not that we don’t love our family and friends, but our marriage will come before everyone else and everything else. Maybe it seems a bit selfish, but I’ve seen people develop problems in their marriages in part because they are not putting their marriage first. We firmly believe that if the marriage is strong, what comes from it (home life, kids, relationships with family and friends, even job performance) will be strong as a result.
Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I think the foundation of any solid relationship is communication, trust, respect, and love. If you have all of those things in abundance, no silliness like cheating, ignorant fights, putting anything or anyone above your marriage, abuse, etc. will ever happen.
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