(Closed) What if EVERYONE RSVP's..?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Only invite who you can afford, as you get regrets back send out another invitation to another person/couple on a B list.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@swarls_barkley:  Thats what we did, our max guest list is 135, they all were sent invitations, my B list has 10 people on it, as I get regrets back I will mail an invitation out to a person from the B list.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We made a B list too, it’s really the best way to control the guest count Smile But for our destination wedding, we invited about 150 and we ended with 77 confirmed guests.. B list included. Even our close family and friends cant go because of budget and/or vacation they need to file for work. I really dont think destination weddings can ever get 100% yes.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we invited well over 300 and 75 came

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Not even close. We invited 200 and ~40 are coming. But we kind of knew the number was going to be around 40 when we went into it. We both have massive families and we wanted some way to invite everyone (and, therefore, not offend anyone) but still get the intimate wedding we wanted. It depends on where you are having your Destination Wedding though. We live in Canada and are going to Mexico; that’s pretty far for someone to travel to a wedding for someone they only know kind of well. The closer you have it, the more people will come. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@swarls_barkley:  You will never get a 100 percent yes RSVP rate for a destination wedding. We invited about 130 and have 56 confrimed guests coming. We also wanted to do this to weed out the people we did not want at our wedding lol Luckily Fiance has a small family and its mostly my family and our friends coming so I’m pleased with how well it all turned out.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@swarls_barkley:  I am in the same situation. Have to invite people out of obligation and PRAYING they all won’t show up! Sounds horrible right? But when you are paying for things yourself you need to be a bit ruthless! I like the B list idea too. We are inviting 170 on the A list and I hope like 50 come. I PRAY only 50 come….

wish me luck and good luck with yours. Looks like from people past experiences all your guests will not be able to attend.

 

R

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Invited 300, 250 came. Expect regrets but dont plan your wedding around it if that makes sense. In other words, yes, some people wont come. But dont risk it. Be safe and only invite who you need to within limits of your reception space. You will have to pay if extra guests show up. Trust me. They will ask you the night of your wedding!! I had that discussion with my vendor but luckily it didnt happen to me. Sadily, it did happen to another girl and it cost her 5 grand. Be careful!! People will understand.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

When my mom tried to tell me who I was obligated to invite we cut the guest list to next to nothing.  We were worried too many would RSVP and it would blow our tight budget, so we went intimate wedding on them and only invited about 12 people.  Don’t feel selfish, it’s your wedding.  There is family that has met my SO and even some that are pretty close to us that did not get invited.  We’re having a wedding dinner party when we get home for those people that my mom is hosting, she is allowed to invite whoever she wants.  

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

@sweetchiquita12:  So not true- we just attended a Destination Wedding in Thailand that had 101% attendance. They had an extra guest who came along with a coupe for a vacation so they invited her to join in.

My cousin also had 100% RSVP to her Destination Wedding in Bali.

OP-Invite the amount of guests that you can afford to host and will fit in your venue because you never know for sure until RSVPs are back.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

100 percent will not come. We invited 100 and my projected amount of folks coming will be under 30 most likely. I do hope it won’t be more than 40 but it is unlikely it will be that many people. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@j_jaye:  Wow! Thats the first time I have ever heard of a 100% rsvp rate at a destination wedding! You dont even hear of a 100% rsvp rate at a home town wedding!!

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