Post # 1
Is there anyone else but me who fears that her fiancé won’t like her dress?
I bought a San Patrick Eresma and I’m not sure that he’ll like the mermaid style and all of the layering action going on at the bottom. I started to feel this way when I asked him how he envisioned me in a wedding gown and he said that I “looked like an angel”. This made my heart sink, because although I felt wonderful in my dress, I didn’t feel like an angel. I felt like a diva! Or like a superstar walking the red carpet at the Oscars! But definitely not like a sweet and innocent angelic type.
To top it all off….my worrying about what he’ll think is actually making me start to hate my dress. I have been feeling this way since March when I first ordered the dress (it hasn’t arrived yet, so that was the last time I tried it on). So now I’m second guessing my dress choice and stressing out over it.
Post # 3
Oh and another thing…When I first tried on the dress I initially like it accentuated my curves just a little too much, but my mom and sisters kept telling me how good it looked (and they wouldn’t lie) so I started to feel good in it too and ultimately decided to buy it.
But now…the feeling of my being a little too hippy (and not the groovy 1970s kind!) is back and this also makes me question how my fiancé will like it.
Not only do I wonder if he’ll like the style, but will he like ME in it?
Sorry if I’m not making any sense
Post # 4
He loves you, and he will love you in whatever you dress you wear, because when he sees it, it will be the day he gets to marry you! I bet you anything you could wear a burlap sack to your wedding and he would think you looked beautiful.
Don’t worry, it’s just overall wedding nerves getting to you, and you are taking them out on your dress!
Post # 5
If you are really concerned with if he will like it or not… show him. Not on, but a picture of it on a hanger or something. No matter what, he is going to LOVE it, because the women he is marrying is in it!! And when you try it on again, you will fall back in love with it 🙂
Post # 6
Honestly… I only care if he tells me he doesn’t like my dress.
Then, if he does, I’ll kick him in the shins.
Post # 7
Remember two things:
1. He’s a man.
2. He loves you.
He’s going to love whatever you’re wearing.
Post # 8
Take deep breath! Don’t show him!
As I’ve been watching Say Yes to the Dress, Atlanta edition and the way Lori hates “roosters in her hen house”. I think the reason men aren’t suppose to see the dress, is because they can’t see the whole picture. They need to see you in the dress and all done up!
He’ll love you in the dress, just take a deep breath and be calm.
Post # 9
Don’t show him! I have the same shape dress and similar fears at first. In fact, we went to a wedding and the bride was in a mermaid dress with some ruffles on the bottom and he said, “That’s not your dress is it?” (not in a good way). But I know that he loves me and he all he wants is for me to be happy on the day, so if he knows I love the dress then he will love the dress.
Plus, lets me honest. He’s a guy and you will be in a tight, figure-flattering dress. He’s going to love it!
Post # 10
I worried and worried and worried about this same thing. At any chance I had (mostly when I was watching wedding shows like SYTTD), I’d ask him what he thought of the dress featured. There was a dress I thought had a similar ‘poof’ to mine and DH said how much he hated it. I was MORTIFIED. But, guess what – on the wedding day – he was WOW’d and he LOVED my dress. When I later told him how I was scared he didn’t like poof on a dress he said – yes – but your dress wasn’t poofy. LOL.
If you love your dress, HE will love your dress. I’d put money on it!
ETA: I also had massive dress regret and wondered if I made the right choice, etc etc etc. But, I HAD made the right choice with my initial dress and I did all that fretting for nothing. Seriously – it’s one of the things I wish I had more confidence in from a planning perspective.
Post # 11
I have this fear as well! But, he assures me that he loves me, that I have a good idea what he would like, and therefore anything I will choose must be beautiful.
I believe that as well, and I know that no matter what, he is MARRYING you, this is something he WANTS and is looking forward to. He is going to find YOU, his BRIDE, beautiful no matter what. You could be marrying him in a potato sack and he would be happy (maybe embarrassed, but excited to call you his wife). So, I believe that if you picked out something that YOU love, as long as you wear it like it’s yours, he will find you such a beautiful bride and feel so lucky to have you as his wife!
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Post # 13
I was also afraid of this, and told him “even if you hate it, you better not tell me”. Well, you could tell he was amazed at our wedding. My dress had some beading, rouching and fabric flowers on it, and it was not something him, or even ANYONE in my family pictured me wanting. Everyone thought I’d be plain jane, but I wowed them all.
I asked DH the other day what he expected me to wear, and he just said something simple. He wasn’t really sure, but he didn’t expect me to pick what I did.
Post # 14
Fiance has told me before that he likes dresses that are bright white, and he definitely likes dresses that are a little bit smaller, like small A-line, column, and mermaid profiles. I was worried because the dress I fell in love with is a dark ivory massive ballgown. I mentioned to him that I was a bit worried, and he said, “Honey, you’re going to be the most gorgeous girl in the world because you’re you and you’ll be joining me in marriage. You picked the dress you picked because you love it, which means it is perfect for you. You wouldn’t look like you in the dresses I like the most. You’ll look like the most gorgeous version of yourself possible in the dress you chose because it’s what you feel the most beautiful in. Don’t worry about it.”
Post # 15
I second everything that PP have said.
Also, I googled your dress and it’s GORGEOUS!!!!
Post # 16
I too am a little bit scared of this. Every so often we will joke about tacky things we want in our wedding and he will bring up my type of dress. But you know what? That’s the dress that I thought looked most like “me” and it’s the one I fell in love with. I just know that when the wedding day comes he’ll be focused on me/getting married, not on my dress and I’ll feel all the more confident because I’ll be wearing what I love.
And I think the same thing will happen for you and your groom. He’s marrying the woman of his dreams and that’s what he’ll be focused on. Chances are, he’ll love the dress too because I think when we wear things we feel confident in, that shows in the way we talk/walk/etc.
But I am sorry that this is eating you up. 🙁