Post # 1
Bah. I was looking at prom dresses online for my daughter and Fi comes and starts looking with me.
Points to ballroom gowns and says “I hate those poof dresses” I said I love them. I say I always wanted a big poof dress personally and I’m not sure what my daughter wants but she can get what she thinks is nice. He points to slim type dresses and says you would look great in this. I thought to myself , no I wouldn’t my body type isn’t good for that it turns into us looking at “prom” dresses for me (ya I know I’m never getting a prom dress..lol it was more dress styles)
Omfg. I want a poofy stupid ballroom wedding gown and it’s basically exactly the type of dress he hates the most! I want to flounce around with a bunch of petticoats under my dress and have fun. I may be getting old (He didn’t say or imply this..This is just my own insecurity) but I don’t want to give up that dream type dress I’ve always wanted. But damnit! Does it HAVE to be the type he dislikes the most?
What would you do if the type of dress you’ve always dreamed of is the type your Fi doesn’t like?
Part of me says …I’ll wear what I’ve always wanted as its my body and my dream. The other part says I want him to have his vision as well.
Maybe I’ll have to look at wedding dresses with him to see what he likes. Maybe it’s different if it’s a wedding dress? I know if I say my preference he would just say whatever I like.
Then again I would like him to wear suspenders and I bet he will totally veto that..lol.
Post # 2
What if you go for a full A line instead of a poof? Still slimming and a bit of a compromise?
Post # 3
smoocherific: Me personally? I’d wear what I want to wear! Honestly he doens’t know what it’ll look like on you and as soon as you walk down the aisle he’ll thing you are the most gorgeous woman in the world even if you worry a flour sack. It’s your wedding day!! Love is in the air. :o)
Post # 4
I wore what I wanted to wear. My dress was for me. Not him.
Post # 5
smoocherific: From what I have heard and read…the majority of guys say this exact thing. They aren’t a fan of the poof and they love the more streamlined look. I think that’s because guys tend to like the more natural “body hugging” looks (i know that is generalizing, but like I said that is just what I have heard/read).
BUT I from first hand account your Fiance will love anything you wear. He will see you all put together walking down the isle and be goo-goo eyes for you. My husband wanted me to wear one of those dresses too, no fuss. I went with a fish tail and he ended up loving it. Wear what you want to wear. It won’t matter in the end, they will only see YOU.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Wear what you want and what looks best on you. He’ll love it the day-of anyways.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Whichever you choose, he will love you in it. Go for what you want!
Post # 8
Your fiance wouldn’t care what dress you will be wearing on your wedding day as long as your there walking down the aisle towards him.
Post # 9
My Fiance is very well-dressed and has lots of specific beliefs about clothing, but I didn’t even consider his style when picking my dress. If I let him give input, then I suspect he might have developed negative opinions about my dress (though he’d tell me to wear whatever I wanted), but because he won’t see it till the day of, he’ll end up liking it because he didn’t get to see any other options to compare it with. Plus, he is wearing a black tux (not a tan or gray suit like I wanted) and while I was totally against that at first, I’m now fine with it. He looks great in everything and it will make him happy, so I’m happy. If it was that easy for me to accept what he wants, then it should be easy for him, too. Marriage is about compromise, right? 🙂
Post # 10
Fiance said no mermaid dress and he doesn’t Like poof. I told him I could deal with no mermaid style, but my dress has poof. I want poof, he knows it. He told me I’ll look beautiful in whatever I wear.
Post # 11
smoocherific: I sympathise, my dress is all over ornate lace and I’ve noticed my Fiance seems to have a preference for plain satin dresses, he’s also told me I look better in ‘simple’ dresses that arent too ‘fussy’. I’m just telling myself what PPs have said, he’ll love it on the day …
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Go with what looks best on your figure and he will love it. My Darling Husband was the opposite, he loves big poofy ball gowns. I tried them on and they looked terrible on me. Fit and flare and mermaid were much more flattering. I ended up with a mermaid and he thought I looked beautiful. I showed him pictures after the wedding of me trying on some of the ball gowns and he completely agreed that they weren’t as flattering. At the end of the day, he is going to think you look beautiful in your dress no matter what because you are his wife!
Post # 13
I think he’ll warm up to it once he actually sees it on you. If a big ballgown is what makes you feel beautiful and confident, that will shine through when you put it on, and you’ll look fantastic. 🙂
If you’re worried about it, though, maybe as a compromise you could look for a dress with a dropped waist and a fuller skirt? That way you get the form-fitting bodice that he seems to want, with plenty of poof for you.
Post # 14
smoocherific: How extreme of a ballgown do you want? Depending on the style they can look either stunningly elegant or over-the-top obnoxious. Maybe he just doesn’t like the 100 lbs. of poof styles.