Post # 1
I’ve been totally freaking out about this for the last few months. What if everyone thinks our wedding is the worst? I don’t want people traveling (it’s at least 6-8 hours for everyone) and then thinking “Why in the world did we even bother?” or “We came all this way for what?!”
And you know what makes it worse? If some of your guests thought that I would be fine, but I’m worried my vendors will HATE the wedding and wonder why we even booked them!!
Ok maybe I’m just going completely insane here! I’m trying not to stress, but….
Post # 3
@SandDollar: aw im right there with you girl. i think all of us have our moments where we doubt the choices we’ve made and that everyone will hate it. the thing that i remind myself every time i go through my bouts of doubts is to remind myself that 99% of people will not remember the things that you will… that in the happy love cloud you’ll be floating on; everything will be perfect!
and any time you need to vent, the ‘bee is here! 🙂
i’m sure your day will be perfect! just the way you wanted 🙂 and if anyone disagrees (SCREW THEM!) 😀
Post # 4
It’s gonna be okay, SandDollar! Emotions are high because your wedding is getting closer. I was SOOOO not myself emotionally leading up to the wedding, and I shared your fears as well. On the day, you will enjoy yourself and have a wonderful wedding. You guests will have a great time, and you will walk away with your new husband and lots of great memories!
Post # 5
@missjyc: haha thanks for that! The last part made me laugh. and Ohhh soooo soon for you! Congrats in advance
I’m not really doubting my choices…I guess my concern came from a wedding I went to earlier this summer. Everyone sat at their own tables, no one talked to one another and it was very awkward (and I’ve known the groom and his family my entire life). No one danced, but I’m not worried about that because there are only like 6 people our age at our wedding and we aren’t dancers lol…But I remember the bride and groom saying how happy they were with everything, so I guess it doesn’t really matter what the guests think as long as FH and I are happy!
Post # 6
Im not so concerned with the food the venue etc. Im more so worried about the reception just being boring… I just envision no one dancing (besides my Future Mother-In-Law and her fiance since they are both professional dancesr). We were just at a wedding that only like 10 people were dancing. Me and my FH werent dancing because we were just trying to lay low being that his ex fiance was there… I just want everyone to dance and have a really good time, I mean we have 5 hours to fill and its a late wedding… Im afraid everyone is gunna be out as soon as dinner is over!
Post # 7
@eseds: I totally agree. I don’t want people being bored! Plus our guests can’t really leave, they are stuck there since it’s a DW! I guess on the day of there are going to be so many other things going on that you and I really wont be thinking about the things that we are stressing about now…just gotta let it all flow (or so I try to tell myself).
Post # 8
People are coming to see YOU, not for a plate of beef wellington. Think about all the people’s weddings that you went to–did you go and seriously think “well that was crap. Such a waste of time” when the wedding in question was someone’s that you really care about?
Your wedding will not suck. There are things that go well and then there are things that will become great stories.
Post # 9
I was worried about this as well but it was an irrational fear for me! Everyone seemed to be having a great time – people were mingling, meeting new people, talking up a storm, dancing, eating, laughing, drinking and just plain having fun! Every guest is smiling in almost every picture I have from my reception! Its just hard because with just a few weeks left everything is going to go through your head. However, on the day of you will not care or even think about many of the things that have been bothering you right now and you will be able to let go of things and just realize that they are not all that important. As long as you are having fun then your guests will follow that!
Post # 10
You are totally going crazy!!! The ONLY way a wedding can suck is if all your guests…and i mean all…get food poisoning at your wedding and throw up on you.
So no worries =]
Post # 11
I guess I’m just super critical right now and extra emotional (baby stress as well). I’m totally trying not to worry and let things get to me, but this keeps lingering on the back of my mind. I know on that day I wont be thinking about any of this (hopefully).
Post # 12
As many people point out: it’s only the people IN the ceremony that matter(you and fiance) and people are going to be there because it’s so special and not to judge. Some of the best weddings I have been to havebeen the less elaborate ones:) It’s really true, it’s the people that make the great wedding….
Post # 13
I feel the same way! D: My FI’s brother is flying in from freakin TEXAS to watch us get married on the courthouse steps and then go to a two hour lunch! I’m so worried that people will expect bunch (we’re the first of our pals to get married) and all we’ve got is this tiny cheap event. Also, my reception venue has catered/hosted some pretty amazing shindigs and by comparison ours will look like a 5 year olds tea party DX We are sisters in plight, you and I!