(Closed) What if someone objects during the ceremony?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Just take it out of the ceremony wording. That is what we are doing. No one will be given the opportunity to object because the question won’t be asked.

Post # 4
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have actually seen this happen, the officiant stopped the wedding and took everyone in the backroom.  I guess the officiant talked to the gentleman who then was promplty escorted out and they resumed the ceremony. 

I was worried about this with his ex, but the issue has resolved itself.

Post # 5
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow, that would be horrible. I guess, that person will get beat down. lol

We are simply not going to include that. No one in the audience should attend if they object.

Post # 6
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In some countries/religions, that is a mandatory part of the ceremony.  If it is not for you, I’d just leave it out.

Post # 7
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are leaving that part out as well. While we were going through our marriage prep with the Catholic church they told us that they have taken this out because even if some one objects trying to be funny or not they have to stop the ceremony and it will be a huge delay.

Post # 8
624 posts
Busy bee

Because I was afraid my Mother-In-Law would open her mouth, we left it out.

Post # 9
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve never actually seen this question asked at a wedding. Can you, perhaps, ask some of your bigger friends to keep an eye out for this ex-friend and make sure they don’t get a chance to object?

Post # 10
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree – don’t include it in your wording, and if there is a specific crasher you are worried about, have someone in charge of keeping an eye out and removing them if necessary!

Post # 11
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve never seen it asked at a wedding and believe me, I’ve been to many.  I’ve only seen it in the movies.  If it’s part of your officiant’s speech, just ask them to leave it out.

Post # 12
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve never seen this happen, but if you’re concerned, you can just leave it out of the ceremony.  We wrote ours and we didn’t include it–not because I thought it was a problem just because I didn’t see the need.  It seemed kind of negative, so I didn’t see the point.  Instead, we decided to include something asking our friends/family to affirm their support of our relationship.  I can’t remember the exact wording, but they said “I do”, too. 🙂

Post # 13
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

LOL @pendola!

We left it out completely, but not on purpose.  I didn’t even think to add it to the ceremony wording, hehehe.  Wink

Post # 14
961 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

honestly, we’re not asking the question!  we don’t care if anyone objects!  we are both friends with exes and have invited some to our wedding (odd, but i’m actually now pretty good friends with his ex-gf and he doesnt mind that i’m friends with all my old bfs).  but heaven for bid one gets an inch of sentimentality in their heads during the ceremony and object!  so we’re not even asking if there are objections.  heehee.

Post # 15
4485 posts
Honey bee

That type of thing only happens in the movies for dramatic purposes. Your minister won’t even ask the question to begin with. Even if someone did object, they have to have a legal reason as to why the wedding cannot continue and provide proof when they do. Otherwise the wedding continues as usual.

While this type of thing did happen in real life at one point (it originated in the Middle Ages), there were no laws set in place at the time to prevent someone from marrying another whom they should not, or anything else for that matter, nor any documentation of such. The laws nowadays revolving around marriage licenses, etc are strict and rigid enough that this is not a concern at all for the majority of the population.

If someone does make a scene, they are removed from the premises.

Post # 16
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

Absolutely take it out of the ceremony if you can! And have someone lookout for the ex-friend in case he/she decides to show up. That way, you won’t have to worry either way.

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