(Closed) What if someone objects during the ceremony?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have never been to a wedding where that “objection” language was used in a ceremony. I am shocked that people really use it. I thought it only happened in movies!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

As the other bees have mentioned you can leave it out of the ceremony if it is allowed. My officiant left it in but I know that if someone would have objected they might have been attacked by other guests. People were waiting for our union for a long time (even before I met my hubby, lol) and they wouldn’t want anyone to disrupt it.

We were lucky that we had bouncers and cops in the family there to keep things civilized should something happen.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve never been to a modern day wedding where that was even included in the ceremony– I thought that was only in the movies?

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You can probably ask your officiant to remove it.  If, for relogious reasons, it must be included, designate a friend or family member to sit near the rear and keep an eye out for unauthorized guests.  Your DOC, if you have one, should also be on the alert.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m really surprised by how many Bees have never been to a wedding where this was asked.  I don’t really pay too much attention, but I suspect it has been asked more often than not at the weddings I have attended.  I’ve never ever seen anyone object, however.

I was married in a city hall wedding a few weeks ago.  We did not see the vows before the ceremony (but the ceremony was FREE!).  The ceremony did include asking if anyone had any objections and included the words “let them speak now or forever hold their peace.” 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, I didn’t even think of that part for my wedding.  And luckily, it wasn’t even mentioned when I had my catholic wedding.  I bet if it had my Mother-In-Law would have been tempted to do something, even if it was under her breath.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was at a wedding last summer where someone objected as a joke. Luckily the officiant did not take it seriously and after a small pause, just went on with the ceremony.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are having the officiant change the wording to something like “Do you agree to stand by them and not between them? Will you support them in their marriage and future endeavors?…” The audience replies “we do”. Hopefully we won’t hear anyone object then. We’re still not 100% sure about this part, though.

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