(Closed) What if u pick a specific dress for ur bridesmaids and one or more dislikes it?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I HATED the dress my SIL picked for the BMs for her wedding… color, fit, material… BUT it was her wedding and I sucked it up, bought the dress, wore it, then donated it. 

Her own sister also hated it and threatened to purchase a different dress. SIL told her sis that if she wore a different dress, she’d be wearing it seated with the rest of the guests (she bought the dress). 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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pess:  If you want them to wear a dress that they might consider a bit odd, there’s an easy way out- pay for their dresses. It’s a lot easier tow ear something you don’t like if you do’lt have to pay for it.

Are you referring to those dresses you posted a couple of weeks ago?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I honestly can’t imagine a scenario where I’d tell the bride that I didn’t like the dress instead of just sucking it up, unless it was crazy expensive. For my wedding, I was really adamant about buying the dresses for the bridesmaids, that way if they didn’t like it then at least they aren’t out any money. If someone still told me they didn’t like it, I’d probably just ask if they could at least wear it for the ceremony/pictures and let her change for the reception.

Also I sent them all a picture beforehand and told them to tell me what they honestly thought, and if even one of them had said they didn’t like it then I probs would’ve found something else..

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I don’t think I would be okay with having a my BMs in a dress I knew they were uncomfortable with. If I did absolutely have my heart set on it I’d explain why and offer to pay. If they were still super against it I’d probably find something else.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I wouldn’t force my bridesmaids to wear something they hated because I feel it’s rude and narcissistic. I want my friends and family to be happy and feel as wonderful as I do on that day. 

If they hated it we’d compromise on it’s style/length, etc. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would not want my BM’s to wear somethign they really hated. So 3 of then wore dresses and 2 wore almost the same thing as the GM’s.  I had a bunch of dress ideas picked out and shared them with the BM’s. I went with the one that they all liked the best and found it and the petticoat all within a reasonable budget (around $60-65). Some if them said  stuff like “I prefer this dress but would wear the others bc it’s your wedding.” I got lucky and found a dress we all agrees on that also fit the vision I had.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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pess:  Do you have a pic of the dress you are considering?

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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pess:  wow i really love that dress.  How much is it? (I’d love it as a rehearsal dress lol)

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