Post # 1
Okay I know this is a common problem as I have read through the posts trying to reassure myself day after day that my wedding dress is THE DRESS! However, I just feel nothing when I wear it….this has absolutely NOTHING to do with getting married I am happy,in love ready etc. but the dress is just….that a dress. It doesnt wow me and I dont feel special in it. I should its a beautiful designer dress….Ive seen it posted on here on the boards as stunning. However, WIth 6 weeks away I dont know what to do!! I am not the kind of girl to hate a dress.
My prom dresses,homecoming etc (obvisously several years ago and much less important) had to be perfectly unique and yet when I went to buy my dress I was so shocked to finally be wearing a wedding dress that I just couldnt focus on “the one”. I dont feel like I settled but I def felt rushed and stressed and overwhelmed that I had finally met the love of my life and he was going to be mine and all of sudden I was buying a dress.
I didnt cry (I always cry lol) I just was like whew got that done now whats next on the wedding list. So now here is my dilema go find another although my mother would kill me and my budget doesnt allow it? try and find the beauty in it? buy a cute veil, shoes etc to make it better? My friends assure me its gorgeous but I just dont feel like myself in it:( sad, stressed and just want to feel beautiful for this one time event. What do I do??
Post # 3
I didn’t cry when I got my wedding dress, and it doesn’t make me feel super-emotional to put it on. I’m a pretty emotional person, and I cry in response to anything cute/sad/romantic, but I had none of those feelings about my dress. I think a lot of brides feel the same way. There are definitely these expectations in our society that each bride needs to find “The Dress” and you just know that the dress is for you, and you have some magical moment every time you wear it. But in reality, it’s just a white dress. You’ll feel special in it on your wedding day for sure, and I think that’s all that matters.
Post # 4
I would try to think about why you don’t feel beautiful in it? Is it because its the wrong shape for your body? Maybe you can do some alterations? Is there not enough pizzaz (sparkle, etc), then maybe you can add some jewelry.
Buying a new dress if its not in the budget is a HUGE step. I think you need to think about what you would have to give up to get a new dress (i.e. not have a DJ or a cake or somethign)
Post # 5
Without seeing you in it, I can’t make a very educated suggestion, but I didn’t cry either when I got my dress. I did say wow though, and keep looking at myself in the mirror because I couldn’t and still can’t beleive that is me.
I suggest trying to accessorize it. Have you tried it on with your veil and other accessories? If you can add a sash and/or a brooch or a bolero to the dress that might work.
Post # 6
I didn’t cry when I bought my dress, but I’m also not a super emotional girl. I didn’t even cry when I got my engagement ring, I just laughed and hopped around! I’m a tomboy though, so to me it is just a fancy dress. I mean, I like it and it looks good on me, but I don’t really understand emotional responses to things. I have emotional responses to people and pets, but I don’t think there is a single thing I own that I would cry about if it got lost or damaged. Well…maybe my ring, but even then I would just get a new one with the insurance money.
Post # 7
hey date twin!
i’m the same wasy as girlwitharing – i mean, seriously, i cried at the end of mrs. doubtfire!!!
but nope – no emotions when it comes to the dress – no tears, anyways. i love my dress – it’s SO different than most dresses – it’s VERY beautiful and I look awesome in it, i know…but at the same time – there was no “this is THE ONE” moment. nothing of the sort. i think, honestly, it was more that it was the one that looked the best on me and my mom liked it the most! i know my Maid/Matron of Honor expected me to have all those gushy feelings and i think SHE was disappointed that I wasn’t more excited about it!
i’ve grown to love my dress – and with only 6 weeks to go, i KNOW it’s “the one” but mainly cuz i already bought it and we only have 6 weeks to go! lol – but yeah, part of me wishes i had tried on some others…
Post # 8
At 6 weeks to go you’re in a tough spot, but maybe once you have the whole look together: dress, shoes, veil, makeup, etc, you’ll feel special in it!
Post # 9
Thanks everyone!! You were right…:) After aleterations and trying on veils that I finally like this week ( I am doing the short birdcage veil-which gives it that vintage look I was going for)and getting my hair trial done I am starting to like the whole picture. The dress fits great,I am deciding on veils and I should get my apple green nina electra shoes any day! I am starting to feel relieved and that it will be okay:) Thanks for all your encouragment it really helped me to know that sometimes you just dont cry lol
June bride on 12 days left!!!!!:)