(Closed) What if you bought the dress….and feel absolutely nothing! Long:(

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I didn’t cry when I got my wedding dress, and it doesn’t make me feel super-emotional to put it on. I’m a pretty emotional person, and I cry in response to anything cute/sad/romantic, but I had none of those feelings about my dress. I think a lot of brides feel the same way. There are definitely these expectations in our society that each bride needs to find “The Dress” and you just know that the dress is for you, and you have some magical moment every time you wear it. But in reality, it’s just a white dress. You’ll feel special in it on your wedding day for sure, and I think that’s all that matters. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would try to think about why you don’t feel beautiful in it?  Is it because its the wrong shape for your body?  Maybe you can do some alterations?  Is there not enough pizzaz (sparkle, etc), then maybe you can add some jewelry. 

Buying a new dress if its not in the budget is a HUGE step.  I think you need to think about what you would have to give up to get a new dress (i.e. not have a DJ or a cake or somethign)

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Without seeing you in it, I can’t make a very educated suggestion, but I didn’t cry either when I got my dress. I did say wow though, and keep looking at myself in the mirror because I couldn’t and still can’t beleive that is me.

I suggest trying to accessorize it. Have you tried it on with your veil and other accessories? If you can add a sash and/or a brooch  or a bolero to the dress that might work.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didn’t cry when I bought my dress, but I’m also not a super emotional girl. I didn’t even cry when I got my engagement ring, I just laughed and hopped around! I’m a tomboy though, so to me it is just a fancy dress. I mean, I like it and it looks good on me, but I don’t really understand emotional responses to things. I have emotional responses to people and pets, but I don’t think there is a single thing I own that I would cry about if it got lost or damaged. Well…maybe my ring, but even then I would just get a new one with the insurance money.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

hey date twin!

i’m the same wasy as girlwitharing – i mean, seriously, i cried at the end of mrs. doubtfire!!!

but nope – no emotions when it comes to the dress – no tears, anyways. i love my dress – it’s SO different than most dresses – it’s VERY beautiful and I look awesome in it, i know…but at the same time – there was no “this is THE ONE” moment. nothing of the sort. i think, honestly, it was more that it was the one that looked the best on me and my mom liked it the most! i know my Maid/Matron of Honor expected me to have all those gushy feelings and i think SHE was disappointed that I wasn’t more excited about it!

i’ve grown to love my dress – and with only 6 weeks to go, i KNOW it’s “the one” but mainly cuz i already bought it and we only have 6 weeks to go! lol – but yeah, part of me wishes i had tried on some others…

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

At 6 weeks to go you’re in a tough spot, but maybe once you have the whole look together: dress, shoes, veil, makeup, etc, you’ll feel special in it!

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