(Closed) What if you got the ring.. and hated it?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What would you do if he proposed with a ring you didn't like?
    I'd fake a smile and graciously accept -- then quietly tell him the truth later : (121 votes)
    49 %
    I'd grin and bear it -- and wear it proudly, forever! : (103 votes)
    42 %
    I wouldn't be able to hide a negative reaction. : (24 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 31
    Member
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    LoubieLove:  don’t feed the trolls ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 32
    Member
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have 9 other fingers lol so I can wear whatever rings I want in addition to the ugly one he gave me ๐Ÿ™‚ no problem!

    Post # 33
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    2393 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would talk it over with him. I wouldn’t wear something I didn’t like. He wouldn’t want me to, just as I wouldn’t want him to wear something he didn’t like. 

    Post # 34
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    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    To me it is just an engagement ring. I would just be happy that he asked me at all. If I hated it when I get married I would just wear my wedding band. Simple as that. My fiance let me put out my own e-ring but I would have loved whatever he picked out. 

    Post # 35
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    6431 posts
    Bee Keeper

    zippy85:  We picked it out together. While I do think he would have gotten style right I don’t think he would have picked such a nice gem stone. He thought i wanted a diamond.

    Post # 36
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    8995 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    RobbieAndJuliahaha:  So funny. I predict you’ll get  ring the you love , just for  being so nice and witty  and un-grabby.  

    Post # 37
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    9683 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Darling Husband told me shortly after proposing that he would be totally fine if I wanted to exchange it for another style. But thankfully he did good picking it out. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 38
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    9089 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d deal with it. What the ring looks like is less important than what it represents.

    Post # 39
    Member
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I think I would just pretend to like it, and then over time I know I would learn to love it because of what it represents and because my he would have carefully chosen it for me.

    This thread reminds me of Sex in the City too! When Carrie finds a ring in Aidan’s drawer. A pear shaped diamond with a gold band! Such a funny episode. Lol.

    Post # 40
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    zippy85:  You can be honest with him or you can stare at something you do not like for the rest of your life. I would go with being honest with him. I would tell him how you feel. He loves you, so he will understand & wants you to wear something you absolutely love. Make sure it is soon if the ring is still within the return period, & you can have the center diamond reset in another setting you love. Depending on certain jewelers, you may be charge a small restocking fee & some don’t. Just check with their return policy.

    Post # 42
    Member
    37 posts
    Newbee

    He has seen my pininterest board and I have shown him the kind of things I like.  Not a solitaire… either a trilogy, or a coloured stone like aquamarine or yellow diamond….. whether he took any notice or not is another thing!!! 

    Post # 43
    Member
    931 posts
    Busy bee

    I am a little impartial to my engagement ring. Its very simple. i know he put a lot of thought and money into IT though. I’ll never exchange it or upgrade it. It’s his promise to me. I get a little choked sometimes since we didn’t discuss it, but a gift is a gift. In all honesty looking at rings I don’t know if there was one I would like anyways. The one he chose might have been the best. It’s nice to have some of a say. 

    Post # 44
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun

    zippy85:  honestly, I would obviously say yes to the marriage proposal. But later on talk to my Fiance and just let him know I am thrilled to be getting married to him, but the ring is just not my style and I would love a ring within his same price range that reflects my style more. Id let him know that I want to love my ring as I’ll be wearing it everyday. I think many reasonable men would understand wanting to wear something you love!

    Post # 45
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    29 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    LoubieLove:  Obviously you don’t have a sense of humor for you not to laugh at my name…lol…anyways, Its justvan example of the best and worst of people. Have we become so crazy of marriage in society today that a ring needs to represent how much someone loves another? I hope not. All I know if my fiancé ever made a comment about a diamond size not being big enough or stlye(unless it’s god awful) she could pound sand and find someone else to complain to about it. So sad people get upset over such trivial things. 

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