Post # 1
I don’t post much because I’m paranoid. I was here a bit for my wedding, and I’m back now because we’re TTC (so far unsucccessful) but I’m afraid to post about personal stuff in case someone finds me here. I read and lurke WAY more than I post (obviously) Which leads to my question.
What would you do if you recognized a bee as someone you know in real life? Would you tell them or keep it to yourself?
Someone posted a story recently about someone in my life, the story was very familiar to me and the bee who posted was from the same home town as the person – so I assumed it was about the person I knew. I don’t think I know the Bee who posted though. But it’s SUCH a small world, it freaks me out!
Post # 2
I probably wouldn’t say anything unless it was someone I know well.
This can be avoided by not posting photos of yourself/SOs/pets/etc and personal stories.
Post # 3
I believe someone here is my friend on My Fitness Pal (who I didn’t add through here), but that’s as far as I go with “knowing” someone. If someone knew me, the worst they’d know is that I get frustrated with my inlaws sometimes, and most people who have met my inlaws could guess that, lol. They are great people but not the most easy going.
Post # 4
I guess it just depends on if it matters to you or not. I wouldn’t really care if someone “found” me on here, but I also try not to bash my family and friends online! Most people just move along unless you’re the type of poster who has constant meltdowns and divulges a lot of personal and identifying information.
Post # 5
I do know someone on here IRL, but she already knows most of the personal things I talk about on here, especially about TTC. I’d probably keep it to myself if I figured it out, because I also may not want them reading about my stories either.
Post # 6
I don’t talk negatively about my friends or people around me on here so I have no worries. I don’t care if someone I knew saw me on here or said something to me. I guess I don’t see what the big deal is but some bees overshare so I can see why they may have an issue or if they don’t want people seeing their wedding details (who cares).
Post # 7
I wouldn’t care if someone knew me. I’m open and honest about everything and don’t ever post any offensive vents or anything like that.
Post # 8
feelingfriendless1: agree with the two posters above me…what does it matter? I just make sure to not behave here differently than I would in real life so I wouldn’t care one way or the other. Unless you are oversharing, ranting/being nasty, or lying/misrepresenting yourself, I don’t see why it would ever be a problem to be recognized.
Post # 9
feelingfriendless1: You really do need to be careful about what you put on here. I try to never post things that I would care about anyone IRL knowing, and I try to NEVER post identifying info(I suppose that someone could recognize me through my dogs now that I think about it). I do think this is a great place to get advice, but anonymous throw away accounts are better for advice about personal stuff I think. The sad thing is, for the 99.9% of awesome people on here, there is that .1% that isn’t great. There have been people who have had their Facebooks located and people in their lives contacted by people from this sight. It happens.
If I thought I recognized somebody, I’d probably send them an PM. I’d have to be pretty sure about it though.
Post # 10
feelingfriendless1: I’m much more aware of what I’m posting on here. If I saw someone I knew, I probably wouldn’t say anything. Everyone has a right to a little anonymity.
Post # 11
feelingfriendless1: I would send them a creepy PM, of course. Isn’t that what everyone does? lol
Post # 12
feelingfriendless1: I don’t have a concern about someone knowing me in real life. I don’t use this as a place to air my dirty laundry and I don’t say anything that could come back to bite me in the ass. I’m the same person I am here as I am in my regular life so it wouldn’t be a problem for me.
Post # 13
I didn’t register during my wedding planning for this reason. I didn’t want my wedding details to give away my identity. TTC is different since no one in real life really knows or plans.
MrsMeowton: but not telling the person is ruining their anonymity as well, isn’t it? I would probably tell the person so they know they aren’t being as anonymous as they may think.
I’d feel bad if they ending up posting something really personal and I read it knowing who they were. Los of people post personal things about miscarriages, or health issues, family issues, etc. It seems wrong and creepy to not tell a friend you know them and be able to read about their personal feelings in secret.
I think a good friend would tell you right away.
Post # 14
MrsCallalily: In that case, you’re definitely correct. I wasn’t looking at it from that angle. You should totally tell the person so they can change their name, etc.
Post # 15
It’s totally different if the person is posting pics of themselves though. (Not trying to be anonymous) But I would probably still say something.