(Closed) What if you WANT to change your name but DONT LIKE your husbands name?

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t mind my fiances name, I just wish it was shorter! Mine is a super common 3 letter name, while his is 11 letters. I’ve already decided that I will probably be one of those people who only signs the first letter of their last name. At least it’s somewhat easy to pronounce.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If it were a REALLY bad name, I would likely consider keeping mine instead. Unless it would make his whole family hate me or something. But I mean, there are some awful, awful names out there that just need to die out. I like the idea of starting a new name for the family too.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can a couple actually start a new LEGAL name by combining last names? How would one even go about doing that?

 For what its worth..I am taking my Fiance Irish last name. Even if I thought it was weird/funky/silly, I would do it anyway because I am quite the traditionalist and am extremely proud to be given such an honor. The hardest part is nailing the signature since Ive been signing the same way for the last forever years.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@TeamMcGowan: You could go to the courthouse today and legally change your name to ShmookiePants RainbowButton if you wanted to. Costs about $50 in most states.

You can write whatever name you want on the form — even when you’re just changing your last name for marriage. The only restrictions for changing your name are basically if it’s something copyrighted, or a racial slur, or if you’re being sued or charged for fraud or something and trying to get out of it.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@TeamMcGowan: Yes, they can! Mrs. Star and her husband actually created their own last name. She wrote a blog entry about the process.

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really strongly dislike my last name. As a child I always wanted to get married so I could change it… along comes my wonderful Fiance with a name I do not like one bit. He already knows I refuse to take his last name but I don’t want my last name either… I love your idea of using his middle name! My Fiance was actually thinking about taking his step dads name because his father has cut him off recently but with the middle name idea I may be able to get him to just drop his last name and we could both have his middle name as our last. His middle name is the last name of his mothers family on one side… and his 1st name is the other half of his mom’s family names. That is the best idea I’ve heard yet! The best thing is he is all about his middle name!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@HappilyEverAfter54: Do it!! That sounds like a great idea for you guys. More than one person in my extended family have legally dropped their last name for similar reasons. And your FI’s middle is already a last-name-type of name, so perfect!

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@littlemissmango: I talked to him while he was on his lunch break about it. He said we can talk more about it when he comes home tonight… yay yay yay!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Shinytoy:  I see your point, but I have to say that Intercultural names are very beautiful!  I think it’s wonderful that two people from different cultures can marry and now it’s more widely accepted.  I have a very eastern asian last name, and my boyfriend is hispanic.  My first name is American, my middle name is Asian, and my last name- when the time comes- will be hispanic. 

Acually, it makes me very proud and happy to be able to share his last name one day! 🙂 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I remember a story about a little boy named Cole Puffinburger who was kidnapped but later returned. I remember that story specifically because I thought Puffinburger was such a bad last name, there was no way I’d take it if I married a man with that last name. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL!! I joke with my Fiance ALL the time about how my Nigerian name is sooo easy to pronounce and it just flows off the tongue…and how his Nigerian name is a WHOLE other story…it is actually IMPOSSIBLE to pronounce his last name correctly unless you have the proper accent. It sucks that I will go the rest of my life with NOBODY being able to pronounce my last name when for the first part of my life people pronounced my last name with ease. But hey he HATES the idea of hyphenation and that would leave my last name at 14 letters…and I even considered making my last name my middle name…but my parents and Fiance are just like LET IT GO…so I guess I’ll have to get used to a harder last name that clashes with my first name. AND I’d have to change my beautiful signature, lmaooo! But I love my baby and it’s all worth it to me.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So my fiance as a horrible last name… i mean like i tell people what my married name will be and they burst out laughing. His last name is Seman… yay. i’m taking his last name because i’m comfortable with it even if others aren’t. we’ve been together for over 10 years so i’ve had plently of time to get used to it. and really, if i have daughters someday, and they have to grow up with his last name, i’m going to be in the same boat with them. i wouldn’t want to tell them “mommy didn’t take daddy’s last name because it’s silly… sucks for you!”, lol.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Im not a fan of my Fiance last name…Im not even sure how my initials would be since its similair to “Da Paprfarkenstar”…So my initials would be _ D P? Or _ D???  Idk. Im still confused how that works. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

OMG! my boyfriend has always said to me that he never thought he would meet a girl who wanted to marry him because of his last name.  IF I hyphenate it, it sounds EVEN WORSE!!

His last name is Jitzchaki.

My last name is Ross

Imagine… Ross-Shitz-Chaki

beat that…AHH!!! 😀

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

EEk! I ended up with a really cool last name courtesy of DH, but before I met him, I had a very serious boyfriend that I thought I would marry at the time and I used to fret over his last name because I always assumed I would lovingly take my DH’s last name, and the previous boyfriend had the last name Soileaus…Which is pronounced Swallows.

Jennifer Swallows. 

I actually really did think that when we broke up after 3.5 years “At least I don’t have to take his last name now.”

I don’t mean to sound snarky.  I’m just being totally honest.  I fretted over it for years. 

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