(Closed) what if your best friend used “your name”?

posted 12 years ago in Babies
  • poll: would you be okay if your friend "stole" your name?

    yes...it's a free country...you can still use the name one day, too!

    no...i would be upset, too :-(

    i can't believe you just started a thread for this...are you five years old?

  • Post # 32
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I would be extremely upset- I would actually stand up and say something.

    We’re due Dec 2nd and aren’t telling the names bc husband is set in his ways that people steal baby names– however teh one we have picked out for a girl I WOULD BE IRATE if someone else used it before we had ours this year that we knew

    Post # 33
    3340 posts
    Sugar bee

    If you never tell anyone your baby name and then they use it, can you still be upset?  We told everyone early so that they knew it was “taken” but I don’t get the reverse logic?

    Post # 34
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d be upset too!  This actually happened to me!  I told my friend that Fiance and I decided if one day we have a little girl we would name her Oliva..dont you know that was on of her top names!  Thank the good lord she decided to go with something else:)


    I understand you don’t own the name, but the fact that you are the one who told her you liked that name and she is gonna use it..thats kinda messed up!

    Post # 35
    5259 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    That name has been around for a very long time.  Maybe see it as a compliment.

    Post # 37
    946 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ehhh… I don’t know.  It’s a name.  It sucks that she used that name.  HOWEVER, you aren’t pregnant, you’re not having a baby right now, and if and when you DO have a baby, you don’t know that you’re having a girl.  It would be a little meaner if you were due to give birth to a baby girl and your best friend knew that and then “took” your name.

    That being said, there is no law saying that you cannot name your baby Scarlett when the time comes.  It’s not all that strange.  I mean, FI’s two cousins who are sisters had babies within 8 months of one another and both little girls are named Jaqueline (after their grandmother).  Talk about confusing πŸ™‚

    Post # 38
    946 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I just read your update- she doesn’t even know if she’s having a boy or girl???

    I always tell my Fiance, “Don’t worry until you have something to worry about.  Otherwise it’s just a waste of energy.”  Stop worrying, girl! πŸ™‚  It’s going to be ok! 

    Post # 39
    805 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would be upset, but I also agree that the name Scarlett is getting really popular! MY wedding photographer and co-worker have both had daughters in the last year and named the kids Scarlett!


    Post # 40
    1420 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @Mighty – that’s a great point you bring up.

    Personally, I cannot be mad about it. Maybe disappointed not so much at the person but at the idea that the name is used. This should not happen to the hubs and I as we picked a fairly unique name. I honestly cannot wait to reveal it at the shower. Now, if I only knew when my shower will be, lol  πŸ™‚

    Post # 41
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d definately still name your future daughter Scarlett no matter the outcome.  And I’d be somewhat upset but not mad.  We’re just talking about when to have a baby and names stress me out already.  It seems like every name is a name of an ex (or ex crush or ex friend), a family member (and neither one of us have a tradition of naming after family so if we do other people who the baby wasn’t named after are going to be offended) or some name that’s already been called – whether it’s been friends that already have kids or who have kinda been like oh this is what name we’re going to use.  So the whole name thing stresses me out because I have no idea what name to use besides some really uncommon name use, so to an extent I sympathize with her too.

    Post # 42
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

    I’d like to think that I would be above getting mad, but yeah, I would actually be pretty pissed!  Sorry!

    Post # 43
    3358 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    this is exactly why Fiance and I keep our future baby names to ourselves.  This way we know that if someone else uses it, it’s strictly a coincidence.  Also, the names we like are unique, (but not weird), and we just don’t want anyone’s negative opinions to influence us.

    Post # 44
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My sister named her baby what I would have named my son (but we aren’t pregnant yet), so I know how you feel and it sucks!  She threw the name out one day when I was trying to help her brainstorm and I was like, “I didn’t mention that one before because I was saving it for myself.”  She did end up using it, so oh well for me now.

    Post # 45
    3793 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Aww, Lillindy… but isn’t it better knowing that it was a coincidence of similar taste rather than a “stealing” scenario?

    I think that’s how I can answer MS’s question.  Because if my friend, sister or acquaintance uses our baby name, I can honestly say with an open heart and mind that it was just that it was a great name, not because they took it from us.  And I can live with that!

    For example, the name we’ve chosen has been cited as a number one name by several board bees.  I’ve never mentioned that name here, and it’s not really that popular (not in the top 100)… so I know that board bees just have really good taste, not that they cribbed the name from us πŸ™‚

    Post # 46
    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    It’s killing me to read the posts that are so vague about what the theoretical names in question are. Especially your description for some reason, DG. Will you be sharing the name with WB when your little girl is born?

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