(Closed) What if your dream shoes made you his height? or taller?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: How much would you let your groom's height affect your shoe choice?
    It wouldn't affect my shoe choice at all : (22 votes)
    36 %
    I don't feel comfortable being taller than him in heels : (28 votes)
    46 %
    I'm already taller than him, and I don't want shoes that emphasize that even more : (4 votes)
    7 %
    I don't feel comfortable being the same height as him in heels : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We’re both 5’9″ but I think I might be a smidge taller, because when we’re both barefoot I think I look a tiny bit taller. But when he’s in his shoes, I usually wear really flat shoes so he looks taller. I’m very insecure about my height, so I will definitely be wearing flats (or kitten heels) at our wedding. A bit disappointing ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 18
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I bought several pair of 5 inch heels to go along with my dress, to compete with FIs height (5’6 to his 6’4) and because I love shoes!! Low and behold all shoes are to tall for my dress, so I ended up with a pair of kitten heels (yay! New shoes!) but now Im afraid we will look awkward together.

    Post # 19
    9823 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’re practically the same height (6’0″).  I normally wear flats though so I’m not going to change and wear heels for my wedding.

    Post # 20
    478 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @lovelyduckie:  Let me just start by saying that I don’t think it’s the end of the world if a bride is taller than her groom at the wedding. However, I did change my shoe choice for just this reason. Years before I even met Fiance, I saw these in a magazine & knew I wanted them for my eventual wedding: (4″ heel)

    I’m super comfortable in high heels, and I wear 4″+ on pretty a regular basis. BUT, when I revealed my beautiful dream shoe to my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor, they were super against it. I believe mainly because of the price (Badgleys are $200+) and partly because they would make me just a couple inches taller than Fiance. My mom was definitely insistent that I will not want to be taller than him at the altar, in pictures, etc.

    I eventually came around because I could not justify spending that much money on shoes (even shoes I loved that much!) when the rest of the wedding is already making us spend so much and because even I had to admit that they didn’t quite match the vintage look of my wedding dress (it’s my mother’s from 1979.)

    So, alas, here are the shoes I ordered just 2 days ago that I CAN’T WAIT for. They’re my new dream wedding shoes ๐Ÿ™‚ They’ll make me just a couple inches shorter than Fiance. (2.5-2.75″ heel)

    So, I apologize for the long-winded response, but take from that what you will.

    FWIW, I think you shouldn’t worry about it & stick with the ones you have & love ๐Ÿ™‚ As long as it doesn’t make Fiance super uncomfortable & go for it! They look like they match the clutch perfectly. Also, I love Seychelles! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 21
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My Fiance and I are the same height. He is short for a guy, and I’m about average for a girl. I don’t typically wear heels, but his height has not stopped me before, and he has even said that it doesn’t bother him if I’m taller. I’m wearing TOMS on my wedding day, but that was almost 100% influenced by the fact that if I wear heels for more than 5 minutes, I’m complaining about my feet hurting. I would rather be comfortable on my wedding day than “pretty” but in pain. That all being said, if I wanted to wear heels, I would wear them, and it wouldn’t matter if I was taller than my Fiance or not.

    Post # 22
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @lovelyduckie:  Those are SO CUTE!

    I wore 4.5″ heels so I didn’t have to hem my dress. Luckily, I’m 5’7″ and my groom is 6’2″, so he was still clearly taller than me!

    Post # 23
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m in the same boat – I’m 5’7” and he’s 5’11”. I’m gonna rock my 4 inch heels anyway.

    Post # 24
    9094 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m 5’3″. My husband is 6’2″. I didn’t have to worry about height! I wore 4 inch heels for the ceremony and immediately tore those suckers off and went barefoot.

    Post # 25
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ha, this made me laugh.  I would have to wear 7″ heels to be his height and at that tall I would break an ankle.  I am picturing myself attempting to walk in a heel that high and it is funny.  Something almost like a clown balancing on a ball and just being all wobbly.

    Post # 26
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    While I love the look of heels for any occasion, SO HATES it when I wear heels because it makes me taller than him and for whatever insane reason, that makes him uncomfortable. We even had a huge fight about it while we were out one night so, needless to say, I will most likely be wearing flats for the wedding.

    I walk like a newborn calf in heels anyway so that is probably for the best.

    Post # 27
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m already taller, so I’ll be wearing flats sadly. 

    Post # 28
    1647 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

    Well, he’s only about 5 inches taller than me, maybe not even 5.  I’d have to be pretty stupid to wear 5 inch heels (I’m not clumsy, but I can’t walk in hiiiiigh heels) I probably wouldn’t wear heels that made me taller than him, but maybe at the limit, the same height.


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