(Closed) What if your wedding party REALLY uneven?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have 4 Bridesmaids & my daughter who wants to bring the rings and walk the dog down the aisle

My Fiance only has his 2 brothers as his ushers.. he does not even want to pick a bestman… he has pretty much all female friends as well…

I personally am not sweating it… I will figure out a way for everyone to walk down the aisle and that will be it.

Post # 4
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s ok to be super uneven…I keep telling myself that anyway.

Our wedding party looks like it is going to be 6 bridesmaids (2 sisters and 4 really great long time friends), and he has two good friends to be his best man and groomsman. Naturally everyone keeps telling me to cut out my friends so it will be 2 and 2, but I love my girls!

We both come from families of sisters and I have tried convincing him of having his sisters up on his side, but he is very stuck on the idea of that being “weird”. I don’t know how to convince him!

So unless he changes his mind about girls on his side, we are going to be 6 and 2 standing up there. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Whenever I doubt or question an idea of mine, I ask myself “Is this going to be something where, at the end of the night, people think ‘wow, that was a great wedding, except for ______,’ or will they not even think about it when all is over and done with?”  My answer usually determines whether or not I go for it.

I feel like having uneven bridal parties wouldn’t make any difference.  And, neither of you will have someone up there with you that isn’t a big part of your life.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would add your Brother-In-Law, not to create balance, but because he is your Brother-In-Law. I don’t see anything wrong with having uneven bridal parties. But if I would include family (siblings and their spouses) and a few friends and leave it at that.

My FH and I only have 2 friends as bms and gms each. The other 6 are siblings and close cousins, and we left it at (even though some people wonder why we didn’t ask them).

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My friend had 7 bridesmaids on one side and there were 3 grooomsmen. There were supposed to be 4, but the best man got deployed at the last minute.

The 3 married bridesmaids walked out together and the unmarried bridesamids walked out one by one. The boys lined up at the altar beforehand. It was not a big deal at all. It was like a 3-some all night, the 3 married girls, lol. Well, you know what I mean. I don’t think anybody thought it was strange and it looked fine in pictures.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

My fiance and I are having 6 on his side and 3 on mine. I don’t think its a big deal. This is not including my brother in his party, he will be our usher (which I think my brother would prefer).

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think 7 and 3 is great! We had uneven numbers (5 BMs and 3 GMs), and it worked fine, pictures look cute, etc. If anyone thought it was weird, they didn’t mention it to me 🙂 IMO you should have the people you want to stand up with you as your GMs/BMs, and you shouldn’t add people just so that both sides are equal.

Depending on the age of your nephew, you might not want to make him stand up front for the entire ceremony. I had my young nephew as a ringbearer and his mom was a Bridesmaid or Best Man. He walked down the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony and then sat down with his dad. My stepdad is a pastor who has performed lots of weddings, and he encourages brides to have their very young ringbearers/flowergirls sit rather than stand – it’s a lot easier on the kiddos.

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