(Closed) What I’ll never do again no that I’m a bride… (add your suggestions!)

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I will never ever ask a recently engaged couple if they’ve set a date yet – let them breathe first!

I will never assume I am invited to a wedding for any reason until I receive an invitation.

I will never send back an RSVP card with a “no” without including a note to the bride and groom wishing them well.

Post # 4
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I will always send in the RSVP as SOON as I know whether I can make it or not.

I will send a gift as soon as I get an invitation, so as to not flood the couple right around the wedding and honeymoon when they’re out of town!

I will never ask “How are the plans coming for the big day?” I never know how to respond to that!

Post # 5
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I will never be miffed about the invite being address to my SO “& Guest” (of course, this shouldn’t be an issue now that we’re engaged).

I will not assume that the couple will be able to work around my picky eating habits – I will have a snack beforehand if the options don’t seem like they suit my palate.

I won’t make offhand comments about “what the most important thing for a wedding is (or isn’t)”. Her wedding isn’t mine and everyone has their own opinions.

I won’t offer unsolicited advice on vendors (in a pushy way). But I will say – “if you need any recommendations, let me know. I’d be happy to help.”

Post # 6
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh wow, #5 is a HUGE pet peeve of mine…I’ll also always include a note with a no RSVP from now on!

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

even if i have to have heart surgery or donate a kidney, if i RSVP’d yes then dammit i will crawl to the wedding if i have to… but obviously i will also keep it low key not to take the focus of the bride 🙂


Post # 10
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i will never ask, “so when will you have kids?”

Post # 11
248 posts
Helper bee

I’ll never return a response card without a short personal note.  I’ve always included a personal note if my response was “no”. But so many people who responded “yes” included notes on their response cards about how excited they were about the wedding, etc.  It made the responses that much more personal and fun to look forward to in the mail.  Now I’ll remember to do that as well.

Post # 12
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

agreed Mrs. dee to bee I will NEVER ask how the plans are coming!!! I HATE that one!! I always just say “Theyre coming”!


I will never ask about a date until I am told one.

I will never assume I am invited even if it is my best friend, cousin, Future Sister-In-Law etc

I will never try to push something on a bride that she doesnt want

I will let the bride make her own decisions even if I dont 100% agree with them


Im sure more will come once Ive gotten as far as the wedding!

Post # 13
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I won’t expect an open bar. Man, they’re expensive!!

Post # 14
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I will never ask if they’ve chosen a date, and once a date has been chosen, I will never question why they went with that date.

Post # 15
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How about I won’t assume that an invitation addressed to only myself means that I may put 4 other people on the response card?

Post # 16
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Claxton Farm

Fail to RSVP! Ugh, I’ve been terrible about that in the past! I can’t remember a wedding where the bride didn’t have to call to ask *embarrassed*.

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