Post # 32
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Honey bee
@ColoradoGirl: Thank you! I think we need to plan a date night and just turn off the cell phones for a weekend so we can pretend to get away!
So I’m going to take a deep breath, muddle through this crap and remember that in the end, I love my Fiance and I’d do anything to be with him for the rest of my life.
^^Honestly that’s the best advice that I just need to remember. Nothing matters besides the fact that I’m marrying the love of my life.
@Tiffner: We thought we had a small family… until I put it on paper and realized that JUST my immediate family (there’s 18 between Chris and I) plus aunts/uncles/cousins are 75 people.
@couawilou: You’re almost there! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Post # 33
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Sugar bee
@vorpalette: This! we don’t want to have someone we don’t know just so people can feel they are at a real wedding. We are getting married in Pennsylvania (the self uniting state) and are having a friend who is experienced in public speaking “officiate”.
Post # 34
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Busy bee
Ug. I’ve been so over it for a long, long time. My mom was just horrified by everything, that gets discouraging, but I did find some friends who thought things we were doing were cool! That’s helped quite a bit. I’m coming out of a depressive slump from our cat dying, but if it weren’t for that I think I’d actually be enjoying it since I’ve found my groove with my bridesmaids. They’re all super-psyched and it’s helping me get excited too.
Friends are the family you choose, lean on them!
Post # 35
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Sugar bee
@MissBoPeep: Yes, at the top of our list too.
Post # 36
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Sugar bee
OMG – I am soooooo sorry this is happening to you— please know I am close by if you want to get together, grab a drink and have a bitch fest about our planning so far!
Post # 37
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Honey bee
@HappierKate: I told my sister to call me later and pretend to be enthusiastic about whatever I tell her whether she likes it or not, lol! I’m sorry about your kitty, but glad you have your friends to lean on!
@nycsa: I want to parrrrtay.
Lol
@armychica06: Yes,
please! Lol!
Post # 38
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Honey bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
@MissBoPeep: Sorry you are going through planning stresses! Personally I have pretty much been making decisions/bookings with Fiance and telling everyone after the fact so that even if there’s argument, too bad it’s already done! Is that an option for you??
I think the stress gets to everyone, hang in there!!
Post # 39
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Sugar bee
Oh peep! Hugs! It will be ok.The good thing wit. These kinda long engagements is that you stress at first and then after a while you go, well… Fuck it, I m gonna do what I want!
Breath love. 🙂
Post # 40
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Sugar bee
i waver between “woohoo im getting married” and “dear god how can one day take this much planning. im over it!”
i just need to take regular breaks from it. also i feel a lot more cheerful whenevr ive hammered out a major detail – “date and venue – check!”
wine helps too…
Post # 41
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Honey bee
@newname_99: Haha I have a feeling
lots of wine will be drank before this is all over.
Post # 42
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Sugar Beekeeper
@nycsa: The weird part is that the people I was worried about doing this have absolutely no opinion whatsoever, except to say that they love whatever it is that we choose. I was so worried that they were going to be unhappy because we’re not getting married in a church or in a religious ceremony, but they want us to do what’s
us. I also think FI’s family (who’s helping us pay) is really relieved that we’re spending about half what his brother and SIL spent on theirs, and with us, there’s no “Well MY parents are putting down $XX,XXX, so we’ll need that much from you.” They offered and we accepted.
@elysion: I’ve been doing this, too. I find something, I run it by Fiance, we book it, then we tell people, IF we tell them at all.
Post # 43
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Helper bee
“Neither is acceptable because we must have a three course sit down meal.”
Why?
Post # 44
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Busy bee
Haha, oh yes..I am over planning this wedding, I don’t understand when people say it’s fun. I think it would be fun if I had an unlimited amount of money to spend. But I don’t, so it’s really frustrating!
Post # 45
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Honey bee
@SophiaPetrillo: Beats the heck out of me! That’s the reaction I’ve been met with every time I mention doing anything else different! (I’m not doing a 3 course sit down meal, no way, no how!)
Post # 46
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Helper bee
Haha yes it is crazy when you write down all the names on paper and then add them up!!
It will be okay!! I have seriously had like three meltdowns already. Just try to remember it is your day and it will be beautiful! Hopefully on the day everyone is going to be looking at you and not judging the kind of chairs you got or what color the flowers are. A much needed open bar (we are doing just beer and wine to help with costs) will be waiting for us after this planning is all over with!!
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