Post # 1
I’ve seen a lot of posts asking how much people going give at a wedding, but never one with a poll on WHY they’re giving that much (thought lots of comments including rationale).
Care to share? Just out of curiosity! If I missed you reason, please post it!
Post # 3
With me it depends on mainly how close I am to the couple and how much money I have…
Post # 4
We give the same amount to everybody! Easier to remember!
Post # 5
How much money I have and how close I am to the couple. Plus, we look at what they’ve given us.
Usually we give about $100 but my hubby’s friends gave us $250 for their wedding, so we’ll give more to them for theirs.
Post # 6
It depends on how much money I have, if we travelled for the wedding (then I have less to spend) and what they want (ie: I’ll be more prone to spend more for a close friend that I know is dying to get ‘x’ off their registry)
Post # 7
How well i know the people and how much we can afford at the time!
Post # 8
All of these:
How far we have to travel/whether we have to stay in a hotel
How many other gifts we’ve had to buy
How much we can afford at the given time
How close we are to the couple
Also recently, as petty it sounds, what they got us for our wedding. We’re going to one wedding next month where the couple attended our recent wedding and didn’t get us any gifts. Call me horrible, but because of that I didn’t feel like buying anything for them either. We’re regifting them something we already had two of. Something nice, but not something they registered for.
Post # 9
I think we tend to go off how well we know them and how much we have to spend. Normally, we do between 50-100 but might go up or down depending on the person.
Post # 10
obviously u want to spend more on ppl you are closer to and have a stronger connection with. same as buying birthday presents u spend more on ur best friend than ur regular friends
Post # 11
My “standard” is $50 if I’m attending alone, $100 if I go with Fiance. I don’t ever really do less than that. I will do more if it is someone I’m closer to (like a good friend vs. a cousin) or if I can’t attend (usually bc its out of town).
Post # 12
Not many people are selecting “How much is expected in our region/group of friends,” but I suspect that many of us are influenced by these things without realizing it. We get our idea of what’s normal from our environment, both in terms of the culture of our region and from the other weddings we’ve attended and what we hear about from our friends. We give based on how close we are to the couple and what we can afford, but those variables are constrained within our general idea of what a person gives as a wedding gift. For example, someone on the boards was very hurt that a couple at their wedding “only” gave a fifty dollar gift. In my region and group of friends, this reaction would be difficult to understand, because while many of us would give a more expensive gift than that, we wouldn’t necessarily expect someone else to.
Post # 13
we do the gift based off of how much we’ve had to spend to get to the wedding. like, for a destination wedding where i’m a bridesmaid and am spending $2K to get down there and stay, i will probs spend less on the gift than if i was a bridesmaid and didn’t have to fly somewhere.
Post # 14
I would say that both ‘How much is expected in our region/group of friends’ and ‘How much the wedding is costing the couple/their family’ strongly influence the range of what I spend on wedding gifts. ‘How much money I have at the time’ and ‘How close I am to the couple’ determine where, within that range, my gift falls.
Post # 15
I give based on how much I can afford first, then how close I am to the couple. I have no idea how much people give in my region but I usually buy a gift between $50-$75.
Post # 16
Wow, I think I clicked on almost all of those choices! As my friends and I have gotten older and earned more money, I have been able to afford to spend more on wedding gifts. But all those factors mentioned come into play–if I’ve had to buy a plane ticket, book a hotel, buy a shower gift, etc. that will usually take away from how much I will spend on the wedding gift.