Post # 1
You guys can check out my back story in another post I wrote, but basically… My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage since month two, and it’s been 9 months since. I think he’s stalling. We were talking about marriage even before my mom AND my sister got engaged… and now my sister’s wedding is less than two weeks away. Because my big sis is getting married soon, the questions have already started…”When’s your turn?” I’ve already been asked 3 or 4 times.
Here’s the thing… I find that to be annoying. Not just in a regular way that the question would normally be irritating to someone, but it’s REALLY irritating… like pouring salt in the wound since my boyfriend has been stalling. My sister is having a HUGE wedding… all of our family is coming in from different countries (and it’s quite large…) and I KNOW everyone will be asking me when my turn is…especially since my mom let it leak to our family that we had been ring shopping.
What can I do, short of taping a sign to me that says, “No, I’m not getting married soon.” What short, quick responses can you guys think of that can fend off this convo that I will surely get roped into on my sister’s big day?
Post # 3
“Due to covert work I do for the government, we can’t consider marriage yet.”
“I’m waiting for Crazy Aunt Mary to die off – we don’t want her kind of drama at our wedding!”
“Soon, but I wanted to climb Mt. Everest/run a triathalon/finish school (etc) before I got hitched!”
“What? Didn’t you hear? BF and I have decided we don’t believe in the institution of marriage.”
“I’m not getting married until our goverment lets everyone get married.” (if you want to make a marriage equality statement.)
Honestly – those kinda questions suck and are rude – when I was in that boat, I found the best way to deal with this was with a silly statement (I used Mt. Everest quite a bit) – people got the hint!
Post # 4
“As soon as people stop asking about it.”
Post # 5
I actually didn’t get much further questioning when I just said “eh, you know, eventually. We aren’t in a hurry”. Even though I was haha!
Post # 6
Id just say “that’s a good question.”
Post # 7
Ask him – then point to your Boyfriend or Best Friend (if you want to make a statement to your BF) lol
Otherwise everything that pp’s said!
Post # 9
Before Fiance and I got engaged, I got asked that soo many times, I finally got mad and said “none of your damn business….next question..” lol That stopped the questioning.
Post # 10
“I didn’t realize I was standing in line” …?
Post # 12
I usually say, “ask my SO.”
Post # 13
I wouldn’t actually say this, except around close relatives who understand my humor, but, “Only after the baby arrives!”
Post # 14
@love108: I tried that once with a family member who really should have known better…. did not go over well because for the next 3 months they asked about the pregnancy instead!
To the OP: We used the same line that @Taeyers: used! It seemed to get the point across. We had a 2 year engagement so you can imagine. And trust me, after the wedding, the questions do not stop… the next one on the list is “when are you going to have a baby?”…….. to me that one is even more rude/obnoxious/annoying
Post # 15
When money grows on trees?
Post # 16
“When _______(your SO name) finds all his ducks that have gone missing and finally get’s those buggers lined up!”
That’s my new one since it’s no secret my SO is the type of guy who likes to have all his ducks in a row 🙂 Or I’ll say, Oh yeah, my SO? He’s still searching for that rogue duck. and then people are like, huh? And I say, yeah. The missing duck is key – can’t get his ducks in a row with one missing!