(Closed) What is a friend?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have good friendships. Do I get angry with them sometimes? Of course, but I let them know. I can talk to them about anything. If I can’t be friends with someone anymore because of how they are acting, then I let them know. I have mostly guy friends because, IMO, girls are way too hard to get along with in my age group. I found that in high school and college.

I found a lot on the boards that girls want their friends to be there physically. I tend to disagree. Friends need to be there emotionally first. I have a good friend who is never physically there, but emotionally she can always lend an ear or some advice and that, to me, makes a good friendship too.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I have lots of friends but realistically there are only 3 that I would trust with my life.  I have been friends with my best friend for 20+ years and although we dont get to spend as much time together anymore (we both have families) we always make time for phone calls and when we do meet up its as if we saw eachother the day before!

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mamadingdong:  I have no frenemies whatsoever! I only have 2 really good girl friends in my life. My BFF from highschool and a friend (who’s actually SO’s cousin) for the past 4-5 years. I used to have a group of “acqaintences” but I decided I wasn’t in for the drama they perpetuated if I couldn’t have an actual getting to know you kind of friendship.

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

this is why i have no friends….and my only friend is now technically a relative. (my BFF turned into my SIL)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i feel the EXACT SAME about my friends. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

@mamadingdong:  You and I have the same philosophy on friendships.  I treasure my close friends who have always been supportive, loyal, and hilarious.  I have maybe seven friends who are in my close circle, from all different stages of my life (high school, college, study abroad, work).  

I have had to let go of girlfriends who I thought were there for me because they simply weren’t.  I can’t articulate it better than you.  If some of my “done” friends ever called me in the middle of the night sobbing, I would take the call and talk them through their issues simply because I can look back at some of the good memories we shared with a smile.  But prolonging a lopsided friendship with backstabbing and trashtalking?  NO.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Here’s the thing – this topic is so subjective- friendships mean different things to everyone. It’s really whatever you’re comfortable with and who you choose to be in your life.

And there are all sorts of different KINDS of friendships, I’m very much an introvert when it comes to truely socializing. If I lived by the perameters you laid out in your original post I’d have, I guess, no friends. 

I talk to the girls in my bridal party every 3-4 weeks tops (not including wedding things). Some of them I haven’t truely been comfortable sharing things with, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t LOVE spending time with them and that I don’t care – I just have a harder time letting people in. Like, TRUELY in…you know? My two BEST friends are my fiance and my mom! 🙂 

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