- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
Darling Husband and I finally recently got married. We already have an amzing son who just turned 5 last week. I have honestly had baby fever for a good while now but wanted to be married before we had our next child (silly to some maybe, but it meant a lot to both us). We also wanted to make sure other aspects of our lives were more stable. It took me awhile after graduating to really find a good job in our area (it really lacks industry here) and for about a year I worked for our county miserablly during the day, and bartended at night. I’ve been at my new job since December now and just recently became a permanent employee after starting out on a contract. This is a wonderful organization and I really feel like I can make my career here.
So, now I am feeling more stable. We own a home, both have good jobs, and are now married…however Darling Husband is extremely…we’ll say fiscally responsible. We both want another child, and talk about things like baby names…he jokes that he only produces men so we are out the girl I am hoping for next time around…the conversation comes up often. However it is in “onedays and somedays” and not firm as to when we should be doing this. It’s always, we need to save more money…while I feel like we did it before when we were much younger and not as well established, and you can never really plan for these things.
I’m obviously older now and would really like to have our next one before I am 30 (I turn 28 this year). Also, I’ve had a LEEP w/ cone biopsy a few years ago…annnnnddd due to not having health insurance I’ve been without my annual for 2 years now. (I have an appt set up now!) I’m terrified of what could be going on in there…and I honestly feel with my issues that after our next child I might want to have everything just taken out to lose the risk of cervical cancer.
How should I bring all this up to him without feeling like I am pressuring him…I really don’t mean too…I just have a lot weighing on my mind and I’m not sure if he really knows why I want to have a baby so much now.