(Closed) What is a reasonable number for guests at a wedding shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee

i think for each of my showers, I had about 30-40 people invited. the turnout was about 28-35/shower. I thought that was a good size.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just sent my list to FI’s family for my shower—for exactly that reason, I didn’t include anyone out of state except for immediate family (they aren’t planning to come, but it seemed appropriate to invite them). In fact, I didn’t even include local people on the guest list who aren’t friends of mine (e.g., wives of FI’s friends or co-workers if I don’t know them personally, etc.)

It is the tradition in some areas to invite all of the women on the invite list, but I always find it a little off-putting when I receive out-of-town shower invites for people I don’t know well, so I didn’t want that for mine. I wound up with a list of around 20, which seems like a good size.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it’s ok to invite out of state people if they are family or friends.  Some might legitimacy come and others might want to send gifts.  And if they don’t want to do either then they won’t feel left out.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I personally talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor who is my sister and we decided not to invite guests including family who were from overseas, to avoid the whole asking for gifts.   In the past we’ve opted not to send a shower and they will ask and still buy a gift from the registry and send it, but they haven’t felt left out in any way.

My shower is around 25 people approximately.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I invited 65 people to my sisters shower and we ended up with about 35. We invited that many quite frankly not to hurt anyone’s feelings, even people I knew for sure wouldn’t come got an invite. Also I figured, why not get her as many presents as possible?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

At my first shower, there were 15 people. My co-workers threw a shower for me at the office and there were 25 people there. We are having a lingerie shower the morning of the wedding and 25 people are coming to that as well.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Uh oh- I’m right now putting together my addresses for my Maid/Matron of Honor, for shower invites. I HAVE ABOUT 95 PEOPLE ON THE LIST!

I just figured it would be rude to not invite every female to the shower. Am I wrong? oh boyyyy.

 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

No…every female invited to the wedding isn’t usually invited to the shower unless they are close friends and family. I wouldn’t even consider inviting dates of friends I may have never met or barely know,or wives of co-workers,etc.

Having a shower at home can be a pretty big undertaking, especially for 75 people! I don’t know anyone who can comfortably seat more than 35-40. In addition to that,do you have any idea how long it would take to open gifts from that many guests? My daughter’s shower was today,and we invited 35. 29 came and it still took over 3 hours for her to open everything!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am inviting all in-state female friends and a few out-of-staters who I know will want the invites (although most likely won’t attend).

I am inviting all female family (since non are in-state!)

What about those of you having or who had more then one shower? How did you handle who got invited to which shower? And did anyone get invites to BOTH?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

My daughter is also being given an office shower for about 30 people. The hostesses of that shower were also invited today and came, and my other daughter (the MOH) and I are invited to the office shower. Are you asking about handling gifts? Yes…gifts given for both.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I just had to send out invites for my BFs shower that I’m hosting.  I had about 75 on the list.  I thought it was a little excessive, honestly.  Postage and invites and all aren’t super cheap, and since I’m footing the bill- I don’t really like that we had to invite every female she works with (even though she doesn’t like them) so that they wouldn’t have their feelings hurt if they weren’t one of the 3 individuals she actually wanted to invite.

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