(Closed) What is a rehearsal dinner?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

-the day before your wedding, you usually have a rehearsal to make sure everyone knows where they should be, what they should be doing, etc. after the rehearsal, there is a dinner.

-the people invited are the people who need to be at the rehearsal. usually the wedding party and immediate family (parents, siblings)

-the day before the wedding… and wherever you (or the person hosting) want. usually a restaraunt that has been reserved for a private party. in my family (more casual) it’s usually a cookout.

-‘traditionally’ the groom’s parents pay. but… that’s only traditionally.

Post # 4
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

-What is the purpose? To rehearse how the ceremony will go, to ensure as little hiccups as possible. Afterwards, there’s a meal. We’re thinking going someplace for a brunch.

-Who gets invited? Who MUST be there? I never knew the rehearsal dinner to get formal invitations. I’ve only heard of one cousin of mine to do that. Otherwise, I’ve known it to be verbal invitations. I’ve always known the wedding party (and SOs if you can swing it), parents, and grandparents to attend. Nowadays, though, I know it’s more common to invite everyone who is invited to the wedding, mainly focusing on OOTs. I don’t agree with this trend and we won’t be following it.

-When and where should it take place? The rehearsal usually takes place the day before the wedding at the venue. We’re planning on ours being in the morning and the meal following at a nearby restaurant. It’s just easier on my disabled parents to do that timeframe.

-Who pays for it? They say the grooms’ family, but that’s not required. If you’re talking about budget with families, then start talking about the rehearsal dinner and who will be paying for it or contributing. We haven’t even begun that topic yet!

Post # 5
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

-What is the purpose?

After you rehearse for the wedding, it’s a good time to feed your Wedding Party and thank them for partaking a special role in your wedding. This is also usually the time for giving the Wedding Party and Bride and grooms’ parents gifts, thanking them for all their love and support (whether or not they are helping you pay for the wedding).

-Who gets invited? Who MUST be there?

Usually the Wedding Party, immediate family and their spouses and Out of Town guests are invited but I’m doing Wedding Party and immediate family ONLY. We are having our rehearsal dinner at my parents house immediately following the rehearsal. We are getting married in our parents backyard by the lake during sunset and I don’t want anyone seeing the rehearsal. I want it as a surprise to our guests.

-When and where should it take place? 

Usually it’s done the day before the wedding but when I was planning an Out of Town wedding at first, the rehearsal dinner was going to be in our hometown the week before the wedding. Just a good close date to the wedding where ALL of your Wedding Party and immediate family can attend. The rehearsal dinner can take place at the venue or at your parents’ home or at any restaurant.

-Who pays for it?

Traditionally it’s the groom’s parents but my FI’s parents (though they have $$$) aren’t contributing anything… that I know of. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and my mom has offered to pay for it. 

Post # 6
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry


We’re having a non-rehearsal dinner the night before- the actual rehearsal will be at the venue an hour before the wedding.

-invite: wedding party and their dates, immediate family, officiant/ceremony participants. You can invite Out of Town guests if budget allows, but it’s not required.

-Wherever/whenever you want! You can do it a week beforehand, if it works better for everyone’s schedule. Usually done the night before. You can host it at a restaurant, or hold at someone’s house, have a BBQ in a park- whatever works for you.

-Who pays can bring up differences between what the bride/groom wants, and what their parents want, if the groom’s family is paying. Ex: couple wants small/casual, MOG/FOG want all Out of Town guests at a fancy restaurant.

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