Post # 1
I am planning a destination wedding to Mexico because of the affordability there. The Occidental Grand resorts offer $100 a night all inclusive rates to all my guests. I got this deal through my future mother-in-law who belongs to a club association. So I would ask that my guest pay for there nights stay + airfare. Which i have a promotion code for an additional discount of 5% for them as well. (tickets from nj will prob be around $300 roundtrip)
I figured the guests can tailor their stay according to theit affordabilty. They can stay 3 nights or 7 if they choose. And for an all-inclusive rate.. this is unbeatable… I think. I haven’t checked other resorts except for sandals and they quoted almost 300 a night. Most people I’m inviting can afford this. A few others we are going to help out.
I want my dream wedding. But I want to be courteous to all our guests. Am i on the right track?
Post # 3
I think so. You’ve shopped around and arranged discounts, which was a very good move; you obviously didn’t just pick this place out of a hat! DWs are somewhat expensive anyway which I think (hope) is one of the understood things before people agree to come. And given that you’re already arranging to help pay for those who couldn’t afford it (please make sure they’re okay with this first…) I think that you’re being very thoughtful and generous.
Post # 4
I think so, too. It sounds like your guests will be paying less than mine who have to travel to NY!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2020 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I definitely think you are on the right track! Guests who will be joining you will know their expenses going into the wedding, so they will be prepared. You scored an excellent rate & I am sure they will appreciate that!!
Post # 6
You are so generous to be helping some of your guests out financially so they are able to attend your DW! 🙂 The approach that you have used has been great – getting great rates, arranging discounts and communicating your plans to your guests. You are absolutely on the right track!
Post # 7
I absolutely think that sounds on track. I had the same dilemna, but with the added problem that airfare to our destination was never less than $450, generally in the $550 range. (OUCH!) To make it more affordable for some family members and close friends, I ended up renting a few cottages (less expensive than the hotels in the area), so people didn’t have to pay for their accommodations if they were unable to afford hotels. i know this is totally unconventional — you’re not “supposed” to have to pay for guests’ travel or rooms — but I felt I wanted the overall cost to be not too far above the $600-$700 range. In the end, my average guests’ cost is similar to yours, but only because I’m sucking up the rental on several cottages.
Okay, that was a really long and blabby answer.
Short answer: your plan sounds very thoughtful and good!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I guess I felt all of the sudden worried after reading negative posts on this forum. The last thing I want is for people to feel like I want them to pay for my wedding and that I am selfish. yada yada yada jeez some people are harsh on here. In reality I don’t want everyone I kinda know at the wedding. Just close friends and family so this is a great way to have exactly that.
Post # 9
It sounds like a great deal to me! I’m having a destination wedding and I think when you decide to have one, you just have to accept that people will have to pay to get there/stay there and kind of let go of the guilt factor (which happened to me at first). The only thing that I’ve discovered is that even though I did a lot of research and arranged discounts at the hotel where the wedding is taking place, everyone has their own idea of where they want to stay and most of my guests ended up booking elsewhere – and not always because of price!
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Sounds like an awesome deal! I think (hope) that anyone going to a Destination Wedding will understand that it will be at least somewhat expensive. Sounds like you got some really great deals for your guests, which will definitely be appreciated!!
Post # 11
I think that sounds very reasonable
Post # 12
I think that it is a very good deal. You still may have guests who will be unable to travel due to their finances/inability to take days off of work but you have done your best to minimize costs given the type of wedding you want to have. I think every bride has the right to have any kind of wedding they like, but need to accept the fact that not everyone will be able to travel to a destination wedding. But since you have done such a good job of minimizing costs, hopefully you will be able to minimize the number of declines also.
Post # 13
One question is whether you are in effect expecting the guests to pay for their own meals at the reception? If guests are required to stay at the resort, which includes all meals, and your “reception” is just another meal at the resort, then they are in effect paying for their own reception. Conversely, if a guest could stay somewhere other than the resort and come for the reception, you’d be fine.
Post # 14
Honestly, if people want to be there, they will be there. One of my girls had a Destination Wedding in Miami. The tickets were $250, the room was $270 a night (and there were no other alternatives). So I think you are just fine.
Post # 15
You are being more than generous… sounds wonderful to me!