(Closed) What is an appropriate price to ask BMs to pay for their dresses?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    Under $100 : (38 votes)
    20 %
    $100 - $200 : (142 votes)
    73 %
    $200 + : (14 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Maybe ask them each individually what their budget is?

    Post # 4
    2822 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I personally asked my girls what they were comfortable spending to determine the price range.

    Post # 5
    2003 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Mine were $100-$130 (they got to choose the style, but had to be the same fabric).  I was also recently in a wedding and my dress was $165, but then it cost me $45 for alterations because it didn’t fit at all.  I was a little annoyed at the total cost, I’m not going to lie.  I think you should take their lives into consideration, especially if they have costs like children.

    Post # 6
    386 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    This varies by location. Where I am we could not buy anything in store for less than about $200 in the sizes we needed (needed large range of sizes so some stores we could not buy off the rack). Last wedding I was in the dress was $230 and the alteration were over $100, I thought that was a bit much. I found my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for just under $200 and the alterations were about $60. I offered to pay for the dresses as a gift as well (yes I know people will argue that the dress is not a gift but really I’d have rather had the dress paid for than a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift).

    Post # 7
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    My vote was under $100. Mine were actually $170, so I gave each girl $70, to make it $100 for them.

    ETA: Not as a gift… I just didn’t want them to spend more than an $100 on a dress for me that they’ll never wear again… even though they said they would.

    Post # 8
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I really really would like to keep mine at or under $80, not including alterations. I think anything over $150 plus alterations is too much to ask.

    If I found a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress I really loved and “HAD TO HAVE” that was over $100, I would pay the difference between $100 and the cost. $100 plus alterations is not unreasonable to me, although I still would like to keep mine lower.

    Post # 9
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    my personal budget for them was $180. But some girls liked one style that cost $240. i told them if they were comfortable spending that much they could get it. The ones that didn’t feel comfortable ordered a less expensive dress. my friend ordered the less expensive but had to order the extra length which went over $180. I paid for her ‘extra length’ so she paid the same as everyone else

    Post # 10
    2711 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You should really ask your BMs individually and privatelly what her bugdet is.  The going rate is going to vary by location and wedding type.  I’d guess the average is somewhere between $100-$200, but this is just a guess.  Some people think $200 is a lot for a dress and some think it’s perfectly fine.

    Post # 11
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    At least in my area, most bridesmaids assume dress costs between $100 and $200. Mine were $165 and all my BMs were ok with it. I’m Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding in October and paid $133 for that dress.

    Post # 12
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    It really depends on what they can afford, if they are all in a place where spending a few hundred on a dress isn’t a problem, then it’s ok.  But if they’re just getting by, then that kind of money wont be do able for them. 

    Post # 13
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ve been talking to my Maid/Matron of Honor about this, because there a few dresses I would be fine with that are ~$150, but I love love the J.Crew bridesmaid dresses, but don’t want anyone to have to shell out ~$250 for a dress. But she pointed out that it’s easier to resell a J.Crew dress on ebay, so now I’m wondering if I should go with the more expensive dress. 

    Post # 14
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The price range is going to depend on a whole lot of factors. There’s no “right” answer other than “you want the price to be as low as possible.”  Remember that your bridesmaids are going to have quite a lot of other expenses and demands on their time that they would not have if you had invited them as a guest.  They are doing you a favor. it’s not fair to saddle them with a $150 or $200 dress on top of all of that.

    Post # 15
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    i was soo worried about this as well..as 4 of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are family- but all have kids and bills

    i was looking for something cheap..when we decided to all go out an look togehter- i asked them each individually how much they could pay. i was told origianlly 150ish as a high from one..the other 2 said up to 200 was the absolute limit.

    mind you, i did tell them i would pay for jewels and any black heel would be fine.

    well after trying dresss on in 2 stores and having some fun… they all decided and loved the one my Fiance & I had wanted.. it was 189.. and they were able to make payments on it so it worked out in the end.

    i was quite shocked they all went for the 189… i would just talk to them each and see where you stand.

    Post # 16
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I, personally, expect dresses to be around the $150 mark at least. Obviously, the cheaper the better, but that’s not always feasible. Also the material and length have to be taken into consideration. We got long chiffon dresses for my MOH’s wedding, and we really couldn’t find any cheaper than the $200 mark. Shorter dresses are typically less, but even then, I’d say the cheapest I’ve seen is like $120 (unless you count the ones from target)

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