Post # 1
I think I made a mistake, but I’m not sure. I ordered my RSVP postcards the other day and put on them that RSVPs should be returned by June 1st. The wedding is July 13. It wasn’t until after my order was processed that it hit me that I’d planned to send the invites out on the 1st of June (six weeks before the wedding). Now that I’ve got postcards that say I need the RSVPs by June 1st, I will have to send my invites out around April, which is three months before the wedding. Is that way too early? I don’t want to re-order the postcards because I have a guilty conscience about wasting stuff (not to mention, I originally ordered business cards as my RSVP cards but didn’t like them, so that was 250 cards in the trash). How early did you guys send yours? When was your RSVP deadline?
Post # 3
That’s pretty early to ask for an rsvp :/
Post # 4
It really depends. The general ‘rule’ I was told when ordering invitations was they get sent out 8-10 weeks before the wedding. If you are sending to a lot of out-of-state people, or it is going out during a hectic time (Thanksgiving, xmas, etc) that you can push it to 12 wks before the wedding. I’m getting married July 1, and they suggested an RSVP date around June 1 (assuming you get 2 extra weeks to track down non-responders, and caterer need the info 2 wks before the wedding), so I’ll probably send them 6 weeks before that…mid-April. Total: ~10 wks before the wedding.
Since your wedding is about 2 weeks after mine, you’re probably in a perfectly fine range, but I’d suggest you send them closer to the end of April. Your guests will get at least 4 wks to reply which is fine, and it’ll be 12 wks before the wedding which is not unheard of these days.
Post # 5
Also, I doubt guests would be offended. Just wait extra long before tracking down invites past the RSVP date. Normally, you give a week of cushion time, you can afford 2/3 before pushing people.
Post # 6
How is it printed out/how does it read? Is it something you could easily sneak a 1-9 onto the end to make it later in June? If it’s w/in a month of the wedding date, I think that’s fine, b/c you have the 2 week deadline for caterers usually, and then an extra buffer 2 weeks for tracking down stragglers in time. Even if it says ‘1st’, you could morph the s into a 5 and then add the h on the end to make it 15th.
Post # 7
I would keep it as is. Just know that by RSVPing early, you may have more people that have last minute things that come up since a lot can happen in 6 weeks.
Post # 8
Hey Date Twin! I’m planning to send my invites in the very beginning of may, with my RSVP by June 20th or so… BUT, I think you are fine to leave it the way because its summer and people are very busy on the weekends… I am definitely sending mine out a little earlier than I would if it was in the fall for example. Plus, as I recieve “no” rsvps, I’m sending out invites to my “B-listers” 🙂 who will still have time to respond.
Of course, if you just reprint the RSVPS it might not be too pricey – are you using someplace like Vistaprint?
Post # 9
I think it is a little early. 3 months ahead is a long time to know what your plans will be.
I would have the RSVP date be July 1st with 2 weeks to get in touch with late responders. Sending them out the last week in May. 4-6 weeks ahead is typical time.
If it was me I would re-order, but I am kind of anal about those things.
Post # 10
Thank guys! I don’t know what I was thinking. I guess I had it in my mind that I was going to send the invites out on June 1st, and ended up writing that, instead of like, June 30th, or something (I do need them at least two weeks in advance to give a final head count).
I am having a Destination Wedding, so I thought I could justify the early invitations/RSVP deadline by saying that people need time to plan for a vacation. But, that’s what the Save-The-Date Cards were for, to prepare them for the trip. Everyone that’s being invited to the wedding already received an STD and those who are seriously planning to come are already taking off of work and reserving rooms. Most of them have planned their summer vacations around my wedding. So, they already know to expect to travel.
I did use Vistaprint and the postcards cost me $0. So, money is no thing. I just hate wasting all of that paper (like I said, I already threw out the business cards I was originally going to use). Maybe I can find some really cute, scrapbooking number stickers and just stick them over the 1.
Post # 11
Maybe this is crazy but I sent mine out roughly 2 months before the wedding (first week of November with an RSVP date of Nov. 28th which is a pretty tight turnaround time). I figured it would be better to get them all in before the holidays started. I know that’s pretty early but it’s so nice knowing who is coming pre-holiday craziness!
Post # 12
I think that’s fine. 🙂 Since it’s a Destination Wedding people already know about it and may just assume you need hotel things done before you all go. It’s not THAT early. Plus, it’s the day before my birthday which automatically makes it a great date. 😉 Kidding, but still.
Post # 13
I am planning on sending out my invitations roughly 3 months prior to the wedding because I want to make sure all of my friends and family are reminded to take time off and make prior arrangements to show up at our wedding. And I plan on having about 1 month for my RSVPs back prior to the wedding date because I am going to assume that there will be quite a few people who will not get back to me in time, so I’ll have to hound them down. I don’t like last minute things (yes I am sure my wedding day will have a TON of crazy surprises thrown at me) so I want to send these out early… plus I’m too excited to wait, lol.
So I think your timeline is just fine. I honestly don’t like it when people send me wedding invitations 2 months before a wedding, I prefer to have at least 3 months ahead of time notice because it can be a challenge for me to find coverage because I work at a hospital… and hospitals are open 7 days a week… I don’t have that typical Mon- Fri job.