(Closed) What is an appropriate timeline for Invites and RSVPs?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That’s pretty early to ask for an rsvp :/ 


Post # 4
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It really depends. The general ‘rule’ I was told when ordering invitations was they get sent out 8-10 weeks before the wedding.  If you are sending to a lot of out-of-state people, or it is going out during a hectic time (Thanksgiving, xmas, etc) that you can push it to 12 wks before the wedding. I’m getting married July 1, and they suggested an RSVP date around June 1 (assuming you get 2 extra weeks to track down non-responders, and caterer need the info 2 wks before the wedding), so I’ll probably send them 6 weeks before that…mid-April. Total: ~10 wks before the wedding.

Since your wedding is about 2 weeks after mine, you’re probably in a perfectly fine range, but I’d suggest you send them closer to the end of April. Your guests will get at least 4 wks to reply which is fine, and it’ll be 12 wks before the wedding which is not unheard of these days.

Post # 5
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Also, I doubt guests would be offended. Just wait extra long before tracking down invites past the RSVP date. Normally, you give a week of cushion time, you can afford 2/3 before pushing people.

Post # 6
5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How is it printed out/how does it read? Is it something you could easily sneak a 1-9 onto the end to make it later in June? If it’s w/in a month of the wedding date, I think that’s fine, b/c you have the 2 week deadline for caterers usually, and then an extra buffer 2 weeks for tracking down stragglers in time.  Even if it says ‘1st’, you could morph the s into a 5 and then add the h on the end to make it 15th.

Post # 7
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would keep it as is.  Just know that by RSVPing early, you may have more people that have last minute things that come up since a lot can happen in 6 weeks.

Post # 8
399 posts
Helper bee

Hey Date Twin! I’m planning to send my invites in the very beginning of may, with my RSVP by June 20th or so… BUT, I think you are fine to leave it the way because its summer and people are very busy on the weekends… I am definitely sending mine out a little earlier than I would if it was in the fall for example. Plus, as I recieve “no” rsvps, I’m sending out invites to my “B-listers” ๐Ÿ™‚ who will still have time to respond.

Of course, if you just reprint the RSVPS it might not be too pricey – are you using someplace like Vistaprint?

Post # 9
3316 posts
Sugar bee

I think it is a little early.  3 months ahead is a long time to know what your plans will be.

I would have the RSVP date be July 1st with 2 weeks to get in touch with late responders.  Sending them out the last week in May.  4-6 weeks ahead is typical time.

If it was me I would re-order, but I am kind of anal about those things.

Post # 11
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Maybe this is crazy but I sent mine out roughly 2 months before the wedding (first week of November with an RSVP date of Nov. 28th which is a pretty tight turnaround time). I figured it would be better to get them all in before the holidays started. I know that’s pretty early but it’s so nice knowing who is coming pre-holiday craziness!

Post # 12
6891 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think that’s fine. ๐Ÿ™‚ Since it’s a Destination Wedding people already know about it and may just assume you need hotel things done before you all go. It’s not THAT early. Plus, it’s the day before my birthday which automatically makes it a great date. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Kidding, but still.

Post # 13
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am planning on sending out my invitations roughly 3 months prior to the wedding because I want to make sure all of my friends and family are reminded to take time off and make prior arrangements to show up at our wedding. And I plan on having about 1 month for my RSVPs back prior to the wedding date because I am going to assume that there will be quite a few people who will not get back to me in time, so I’ll have to hound them down. I don’t like last minute things (yes I am sure my wedding day will have a TON of crazy surprises thrown at me) so I want to send these out early… plus I’m too excited to wait, lol.

So I think your timeline is just fine. I honestly don’t like it when people send me wedding invitations 2 months before a wedding, I prefer to have at least 3 months ahead of time notice because it can be a challenge for me to find coverage because I work at a hospital… and hospitals are open 7 days a week… I don’t have that typical Mon- Fri job.

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