Post # 1
My Future Sister-In-Law has offered (ahem, insisted) on throwing us an engagement party. We agreed, selected a date/time, etc. She just found out that their house (that has been on the market for over a year) is sold and they will have to move the week before the party. She has asked to host it at my house instead and I agreed.
So, now we are having an engagement party at my house. I don’t want anyone to be under the misimpression that I am somehow throwing it for myself. But, at the same time, I feel like I will have to do a lot of prep work for the party simply because I’m ocd enough to not risk having guests and not being properly prepared.
Any advice, Bees?
Who is traditionally invited to these events? Immediate friends and family? A wider audience? Do I need to register prior to this party?
Post # 3
I didn’t have an engagement party, but I have been to a few.
As far as I know, there will be no gifts for you guys (that’s saved for the wedding) so no need to register anywhere.
And to help your guest know that you didn’t throw the party your self, I may would probably have something that said who was hosting the party – maybe on the invites?
I think just friends and family gets invited….
Post # 5
An engagement party is traditionally thrown by the parents to announce to the guests the engagement and upcoming nuptials. It used to be mostly a surprise for the guests, so no gifts were given for something they presumably knew nothing about. Most of that has changed now, as it seems no one keeps the engagement much of a secret so that it gets ‘announced’.
Nowadays, I guess anyone can host one for the couple, and usually those invited are family members and close friends. I think people feel like they have to bring a gift if invited, but that is traditionally not what its all about.
Post # 6
I see it an engagement party as a way to celebrate your upcoming nuptials. While it used to be thrown by parents this doesn’t seem to be the case these days.
We had one and it was just us and our wedding party, that was all. We had dinner and played games and had a great time. It was a fun way to introduce our wedding party members to each other as well and has encouraged communication between them during the wedding planning process.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I think this is FI’s family’s way of meeting my family, so I’ll keep my guest list to a minimum (e.g. family and bff). 🙂
Post # 8
Fiance and I had an engagement BBQ during the summer. We invited our family and a few friends (mostly those involved in wedding). No gifts were expected. Just good food, drinks, and fun.