(Closed) What is considered acceptable behaviour between Ex-husband and Wife?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Breckenridge, CO

cool 3 year old thread

but seriously if you’re a hot young thang without this kind of baggage why are you signing up for this?  It’s not necessary.  Make your life easy!

I would love to hear how this turned out any updates OP ?

 

Post # 32
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Wannabee

kaitie:  It may not have worked out….We will not know for sure unless she relays that…it could have ended or other.  However, it is a red flag when someone is being hidden somehow buffered.  When one has to hide something, there is something to hide!  

 

Post # 33
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Helper bee

thinkitthrough:  Totally, As I said in my previous post, that is really weird. I was more or less responding to your comment, “

Once a person re-marries, Ex’s whether they be a former spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend should no longer be in the picture for socializing in each other’s home.”

For some reason, it really made me sad. I understand not everyone has the same opinions and everyone feels differently about their exes, but if both parties are willing to put away their negative feelings, it really make divorce for children less traumatic. It is possible to have a good, and possibly even a better relationship then when married. My brother and I are both grown, but it is still a great feeling when my mom (and stepfather) are at my dad’s house on Thanksigivng eating with my aunts and uncles and telling stories about the past. 

Post # 34
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Wannabee

kaitie: Your situation is very unique and would be a wonderful world if all blended family, second marriages could be in the same situation. It sounds like your parents including the new spouse addition were on a healthy foundation, nothing hidden, “accepting” of her unconditionally and giving her respect and value to include proper placement. I am sure if the foundation was not healthy and she was not accepted, you would more than likely experience something quite different. Despite your statement, “I never had to grow up thinking divorce was a horrible experience that ruined families”, there are too many statistics out there that have experienced Divorce to include unfaithfulness that will tell you something quite different. Divorce is horrible and DOES ruin families. They are never the same after it happens. They become fractured and what was once a home to include certain members they believed for life forever is forever changed. There is no easy way to buffer that. More often, when a second marriage occurs baggage may be brought into a relationship that hurts the new addition. My response to the post was a response to what she shared to include the hurt and hiding and being denied her rightful place as FI- soon to be married. I stand where I stand with what I shared directly to her in view of what she was reaching out for help in. She obviously was not experiencing the same world as you. I am happy for you. The post may be an older post, but my feedback was also intended to share with those who may be experiencing similar as her; thus the feedback is beneficial.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why is a year old thread being resurrected?

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

Sounds more like the daughter is causing the issue not the wife. Inappropriate would be spending time with her alone or something. He needs to put his foot down and let his daughter know things need to change. Pretty simple. 

Post # 37
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Wannabee

I just  broke up with mine over this .his kids are grown. HE can make changes to include you. but he DON’T. .IT’S CALLED SELFISH. THE MAN IS SELFISH AND DON’T CARE ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOUR PUTTING UP WITH IT. If it bothers or hurts you he should care. If he thinks your going to leave him over it and changes to include you. ..is it still genuine  caring? YOUR NOT MARRIED YET SO THINK ABOUT IT .after your married it won’t change either. YOU CAN BE 2ND FIDDLE,or move on to someone who respects your feelings.show him this.if he gets mad.. he is doing so because he wants you to back off so he can get his own way by mak8ng you uncomfortable  and not want to fight about it. That way you will just shut up and accept something less than you deserve.  Kids grown!!have holiday with them .not the ex. IT’S SO SIMPLE. HE IS STILL EMOTIONALLY MARRIED TO HER. .. I’m not sorry for letting my bf go over this and other reasons. Life is too short to be left out .I don’t deserve it and neither do you. Yeah it hurts. But I will get over it . Because he don’t care enough about me to include me. Someone one day will. So I won’t waste my time with the one that wont.

Post # 38
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Busy bee

Starshine32 :  he seems like he is carrying on a relationship with his ex-wife instead of you. You should be at those family get togethers too. He’s putting you second and leaving you out of things that you should be a part of. While it’s good to have friendly relationship with an ex especially when kids are involved he also need to realize he is not treating you like you’re his woman.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

monkey89 :  why are you commenting on an old thread? THis could’ve been resolved.

Post # 40
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Starshine32 :   Starshine32 :  hello.. I too have the exact problem. His daughter is 19. I am not invited to the house at any time. He chooses to see her there. He had been split from his ex for three years before me. But until I came along they was still taking the daughter on holiday together. I have had many rows and bothers with this and now iv said iv had enough. He is not to go in the house again. I got a terrible slanging off. He says I’m making it awkward to see the daughter. She is old enough to get out and meet him. Her boyfriend is 33 she not a child. If h hoes there Monday then I’m sorry but my feelings come first. Ain’t no body going to look out for me. Iv got to have a bit of self respect and lay it strait. I’m better than them. Know what is acceptable and trust me my mam would not allow me to do it. 

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