Post # 1
I’m contemplating having my wedding outdoors at a regional park. But it’s about 60 miles from where most of my family live. For my immediate family and friends I’m thinking of renting out a lodge overnight for rehearsal too. It can hold 18 people. Even then, my house is about 10 minutes from the park.
So would it be considered OOT? Will guests expect me to provide accomodations if it is an hour’s drive away?
I say “provide” because my culture oftentimes dictates that if you invite people to a wedding from Out of Town it is expected that you pay for their accomodations. Just wondering if 60 miles is consider Out of Town…
Post # 3
I would definitely not consider that out of town. For me, anything within an hour or two is a “local” wedding.
Post # 4
Are they drinkers?
A lot of my fiance’s family members live about 40 minutes from our reception and they are all booking rooms at the closest hotel just because they wisely don’t want to drink and drive. We’re not “out of town” necessarily, but they sure are filling up my hotel block :o)
Post # 5
I’m in Boston but aside from my parents (who live 40 minutes from the wedding venue) everyone else is between 2 1/2 – 5 hours drive (and a handful have to fly) to our wedding. Though the drive from Boston to New Husband (where the wedding is taking place) might only be 2ish hours, I’m considering all of my guests Out of Town as it’s an evening wedding and I can’t imagine anyone is going to drive home when the reception ends at midnight.
If your wedding is earlier in the day and reception ends at a reasonable hour, I’m sure some guests that live within that 1-hour drive will go home, but as the PP said, if there will be drinking, I bet a lot of people will book into hotels and call it a weekend!
Post # 6
60 miles for me is not out of town. We have driven up to double that and came home without staying the night (event at 2:00 a.m.!). We don’t drink and drive as we always plan ahead and there is always a handful of DDs.
Post # 7
If you can drive in for it, like a 2 hrs drive, it’s not really Out of Town, but you are going to have to make sure you and your guests BOTH understand that! Or they might expect things… from their perspective they probably want to stay overnight so they can stay late for your wedding instead of drive home late, so you will need to make it cleear.
Post # 8
It obviously depends on who you ask because for me, an hour is totallyout of town. If I were invited to a wedding an hour away, I would get a hotel for the night.
Post # 9
I think it depends. While an hour isn’t far if we drinking and the wedding ends late like at midnight I wouldn’t want to drive home at that time of night. However it’s expensive to provide housing for all your guest, I think most guest will arrange thier own housing.
Post # 10
I think if your wedding doesnt last 8 hours and the drive is 1.5 hours each way your not out of town but some guests may choose to stay overnight anyways.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I would say anything that’s more than a 90 min drive would be out of town– many people wont want to spend more than 3 hours in the car in a single day, so would likely stay the night.
So, if it’s 60 miles of highway, you’re probably fine not providing accomodations– but if it’s 60 miles of winding back roads, you probably will want to give them a place to stay.
Post # 12
I’ve never used “OOT,” but out-of-state. That’s a bigger deal to me. Future Father-In-Law, Future Brother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law, and their four chlildren are four hours away, but I honestly never looked at that as Out of Town, since they’re in the same state. My mind works oddly…