(Closed) What is considered the "norm" to spend on Bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Are you in America? In America, the BMs buy their own dresses and are responsible for their own lodging. Brides only pay for things like hair, makeup, manis and pedis, etc if they require them.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am paying for their hair and makeup and a gift for them (a little over $50 each). 

They are paying for their dresses, but I kept it in a price range they agreed upon and am actually doing a trade with the seamstress to bring the price down further. They are paying for their hotel rooms, although they are welcome to stay with me the night before the wedding so they don’t have a cost. They would have gotten a hotel room to attend the wedding anyway, so that’s sort of a wash.

They can wear whatever shoes and jewelry they want.

I think the costs are reasonable on both sides.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am not paying for anything but their gifts!

Holy moly your spending more on them then I am on my whole wedding lol just about though! 

I would put an end to it.  You dont need to go to lunch to meet up, just have them to your house

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am only paying for gifts… The dresses are about 160, and the shoes are up to them, they just have to be silver and sparkly

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t understand why you need a meeting to discuss scheduling. All they’ve really got to do is be at your house/room at a certain time, and then walk where they’re told! Skip the meeting, and no need to buy them lunch, or manis and pedis. Especially since they’re all an hour or more away, the meeting could just be an inconvenience. I would just phone each of them.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@blinx:  I don’t understand. If you are from a background where they don’t pay anything then you can’t really ask what’s the “norm.” For most of us we don’t pay for most of our BM’s expenses. Maybe I missed something?

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldnt pay for a lunch or for manis/pedis. Wouldn’t they need to get them done anyway(don’t they keep them up anyway?)? I think that will save u a minimum of $500.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@gelaine22:  I’m not getting it either. I think I’ll end up spending about $40 per Bridesmaid or Best Man on gifts. A wrap for their dresses I decided after the fact they needed (so I bought), accessories and since we all have to get up early for wedding day prep… Starbucks.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@dmk90716:  ooh, I like the Stalacks idea. My venue has a huge bridal suite so they are making us whatever we want as brunch. I was thinking of doing mimosa bar. I saw it on Pinterest and I’ve been obsessed ever since.

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m paying for the dresses, hair, makeup, and a small gift. I’m only having 3 bridesmaids though so it’s not THAT bad.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m paying for their hair $65 per girl, and $100 on each of their gifts.

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