(Closed) What is holding you back from having kids?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
993 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

waiting for the wedding…. aaaagh.

Post # 4
4031 posts
Honey bee

Primarily, it’s money and age. We make good money now (about 70k a year combined, in an area with lower cost of living), but we want to purchase a home first and have a good amount in savings (about $10,000).

We also want to enjoy our 20’s and devote it to growing as individuals and as a couple. We have been together for 10 years so far and we are 24 and 26 right now. We are planning to start TTC around 29 and 31. We are young and raising children is hardwork. While there is no “ideal” time, we have a good feeling of when the right time for us will be.

Post # 5
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MONEY! If we made more money we would be married with at least a kid by now. Sucks living in SO Cal and not even able to afford to rent a nice place because we only make 50K a year combine.

Post # 6
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well, first we have to get married… haha.

Seriously though, when we DO marry, we will both be working and in grad school. He’ll be finished with his degree a few months after, but I’ll still be working on mine for another year. AND we might be moving, possibly abroad. But we’ll be 32 by our wedding, and will probably just go for it!

Post # 7
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The fact that I have no interest in children. Does that count?

Post # 8
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Money! And well mentally I’m not ready for a child…I’d like to do more things in life like travel before children.

Post # 9
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

waiting until after we are married and also for Fiance to get out of the military. He is deployed every 3 months. We also want to travel and just be able to “live” a little once he is out. He finishes in 2 more years.

Post # 10
47 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

age, We still want to do things before having kids. They are welcome now though if i got pregnant but we are not planning them or have plans for them any time soon. 

Post # 11
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We both like staying up late and playing video games. We don’t want to change our lifestyle for a child.

Post # 12
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well, honestly, the fact that I didn’t marry my Darling Husband until I was 47.  I always planned on marrying much younger and having multiple children.  However, although I had several opportunities to marry many years ago — and I was engaged once before and ended that relationship, I just did not meet the person I believe God intended for me to marry until I was in my mid 40s.  I am still very open to having a baby, if it is God’s plan for me. Despite my age, I am still technically able to have one, and Darling Husband and I are doing nothing to prevent conception.  However, with my medical history, it will be a divinely inspired event (and I definitely do believe in them!) if and when I do become pregnant.

Post # 13
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Not being married and not having a house. I’d be fine just eloping and using the money we save for an apt and then save for a kids fund. But he’s against that idea.

Post # 14
46681 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What’s holding us back?  Any desire for more children.

Post # 15
4987 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Money… and things that stem from money, like not having our own place.

Post # 16
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Brielle:  Trust me, you can definitely have one. My grandmother had my mother in her 50’s! And this was in the old country(Kosova in Europe, very poor country), so there was no help or anything there. Hopefully, God willing, your medical history does not get in the way of creating a healthy, beautiful baby 🙂


What stopped us from having a baby was that I am still in school and he gets paid very, very little, if at all. He works for his father at his restaurant so whenever his dad feels like paying him, he will. My husband doesn’t stick up for himself 🙁

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